Enjoy Your Life by Sheikh Dr. Muhammad ‘Abd Al-Rahaman Al-‘Arifi

Book Name: Enjoy Your Life

Author: Sheikh Dr. Muhammad ‘Abd Al-Rahaman Al-‘Arifi

Reviewed by: Anisa Hagi-Mohamed

Edited by: Mohammed Athif Khaleel


The art of interacting with people as deducted from a study of our beloved Prophet Muhammad’s (peace be upon him) life.
– A product of more than twenty years of research.


Enjoy Your Life by Sheikh Muhammad Al-Arifi is a book centered on developing and perfecting interpersonal skills based on Islamic Principles; whether that is with parents, children or students, friends, etc. This book is primarily based on the life of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him). There are also numerous incidents from history and the author’s personal experiences. So, it’s not just a practical self-help book but it’s also a good lesson from history!

Enjoy Your Life by Sheikh Dr. Muhammad ‘Abd Al-Rahaman Al-‘ArifiSheikh’s Arifi was inspired by Dale Carnegie’s book “How to Win Friends and Influence People”. He read this book when he was 17 and later realized that Carnegie himself did not benefit from his advice as he chose to end his own life. The Sheikh then began researching on the same subject from the life of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) & Islamic History and compiled this book.

Enjoy Your life is a product of 20 years of research and as the author says “…I wrote [this book] with my ink blended with blood; I poured my soul and squeezed out my memories as I wrote these lines.”

The main theme of this book is – interacting with others in the best possible way. Furthermore, it is a practical guide to winning the hearts of those you know in order to benefit, correct and guide them. After reading this book I reckon the author achieved the goal he was trying to accomplish. I personally have changed due to the many advices contained in it Alhamdulilah; I also have shared what I learned with others (I kind of talk non-stop about it to friends sometimes!).

Prophet (pbuh) showed the best of character, manners and communication skills with children, family, companions, women and even adversaries! There are many events narrated from the life of our beloved Prophet (pbuh) his companions & various icons from history. Reading this has increased my knowledge about their lives and character & my heart has developed even more love and respect for them.

Here are some of my favorite quotes from the book:
Success is not to discover what others like, it is to acquire and practice the skills that help one gain their love.

Bravery is not to persist in your errors, but to acknowledge that you are wrong, and not to repeat the error again.

When people realize that we pay attention to their good actions just as we pay attention to their bad actions, they appreciate our advice.

There is a chapter titled ‘With Women‘. This chapter discusses how our Beloved Prophet (pbuh) dealt with women. It’s one of my favorite chapter from the book! Here are some short quotes from it:

“Glory be to Allah who granted the Prophet, Salalahu Alayhi wa Salaam, the quality of gentleness and leniency, even when dealing with personal problems! I myself have exercised gentleness and emotional skills with my daughter and wife, and prior to that with my mother and sister, and I have found it to be very effective indeed. No man honors a woman except an honorable one, and no one dishonors a woman except a mean person. A point to consider: A woman can be patient with her husband’s poverty, unattractiveness and busy schedule, but she cannot be patient with his rude behavior.”

I would highly recommend this book! Whether you choose to read each chapter of this book in order or you are amongst those who like to skip around, you will still find this book to be very beneficial Insha’Allah.

Although I hope every Muslim purchases this book, I would suggest Enjoy Your Life especially for Imams, teachers and parents.

So, are you thinking of getting a gift for your Brother or Sister? This is the perfect item to include! Or just let them borrow it after you finish. :)

And remember, if they benefit from the advice and act upon it, you earn reward insha’Allah!

Brothers and Sisters, you should really add this book to your library. It’s a must-have, can’t-do-without. It will benefit you for many years to come, Insha’Allah.

But do not take my word for it. Discover for yourself why so many are in love with this book! :)

I wish there was an Enjoy Your Life – Part 2! Till then I will continue to re-read the chapters and implement them insha’Allah.

Editors Note:
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BONUS: Read Sample chapter here


37 thoughts on “Enjoy Your Life by Sheikh Dr. Muhammad ‘Abd Al-Rahaman Al-‘Arifi

  1. I’m not a Muslim but I love this so much. I need a website to download the soft copy if there is?
    Thank you.

  2. Asalamalaikum,
    One question though…the author states that Dale Carnegie committed suicide..but on the internet it says that he died from Hodgkin's disease. Um..confused??

  3. MashaAllah i ‘ve finally found the book, almost finish it… love traveling over centuries with the lovely sheikh Muhammad al-Arifi, he bring us back to Muhammad (saw) then put us back to our reality, our world… If you ‘ve already watch some lectures of him when you’re reading the book it is like if you were at one of his lecture, like if he was just here in front of you… subhanAllah so many advices… Love it! Thanks to you for sharing it. Bless u :-)
    Wassalam.

  4. I have skip and read some of the chapters of the book and one of the advice i love the most is only comment on that which is good.

    After reading this review i defiantly have to read the book from page to page

  5. Smiply luuuuuuuuuuuvvvvv the book …
    I would recommend that one read this book once every two months because as humans we have a very bad habit of forgetting things, and this book is an excellent reminder.

    May Allah bless the author for his hardwork and may He, the Almighty, the Most Generous, grant Paradise and His Pleasure to the author and every one who worked for this book and the productivemuslim team for recommending it. Ameen.

  6. “Carnegie died at his home in Forest Hills, New York.[8] He was buried in the Belton, Cass County, Missouri, cemetery. The official biography from Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc. states that he died of Hodgkin’s disease, complicated with uremia, on November 1, 1955.[9]”
    Source: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dale_Carnegie

    :S

  7. hi , i have this books but in arabic , its simply great  , very helpful and informative yet simple and fun to read
    i recommend it 

  8. “A point to consider: A woman can be patient with her husband’s poverty, unattractiveness and busy schedule, but she cannot be patient with his rude behavior.” As a woman, I agree that this is very true! The Prophet (PBUH) did say that the best of men are those who control their anger :)

  9. AssalamAlaykum
    I really really want to but this book. Please could someone write where i could buy it from??

  10. alsalam alikom
    for anyone asking for the book this is an english version in pdf form
    http://islamfuture.files.wordpress.com/2011/06/enjoy-your-life-by-dr-muhammad-abd-al-rahman-al-arifi.pdf
    if you are in arabic or islamic country you will find it in all bookstores (here in egypt its sold even on the streets )

    may allah reward the author and all the muslims , please dont forget to pray for your brothers and sisters in syuria and egypt we really need your prayers :)

  11. Anyone have any legitimate references supporting the claim that Carnegie “chose” to end his life? I’m finding conflicting information in my research. Thanks.

  12. Dale Carnegie did not end his own life…it was a rumor….there is alot of false things out there…always question what you read or listen to…..

  13. Absolutley amazing in many dimensions, this book does not feel like it is worth the money you pay for it, what you learn from the book feels quite priceless. May Allah reward with good the dear Sheikh who wrote this.

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