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  1. Assalamu Alaikum, Sr.Nabila
    jazak Allah khairan for he beautiful post.i was badly in the need to improve my kushuu level and maintaining. Alhamdulillah.
    i have an issue as to maintaining the kushu level during the days in which women are forbidden to offer salah.
    because i personally experienced this kind of calamity.how should womend tackle with this issue.?
    Jazak Allah Khairan

    • Bismillah! Walaykum assalam warahmatullahi wabarakatuhu dear sister Sumaiya. Waiyyaki and I pray that may Allah help us benefit from this article, Ameen.

      With regards to your question, I’ll try to answer it as best as I can based on my limited knowledge of Islam. I ask Allah (swt) to make me write a sincere advice for you and make it free from riyaa and a reminder to myself first, Ameen.

      First of all, know that you are not alone in feeling that your Khushu has taken a slight downward plunge during your menses/nifas days. Most women feel that way; some more than others. But the good thing is that we can maintain our Khushu at a very good level even during these days by engaging in a variety of acts of worship. I’ll list some of them below:

      1) Rida (Contentment) – Don’t feel bad about missing out on Salah or other acts of worship where purity is a prerequisite and you are prevented from it due to a natural reason. It is something that Allah (swt) has decreed for women and being pleased with the Will of Allah (swt) is one of the six pillars of Iman. Then seek reward from Allah for bearing it with patience and rida (contentment) and InshaAllah things will become easier.

      2) Taqwa (Piety) – Ask Allah to grant you Taqwa i.e. piety and a good consciousness of Him throughout the day. Do your best to remember Allah (swt) at all times and places. This will help you refrain from commit sins of heart and limbs. My favorite dua related to this point is, “Allahuma a’ati nafsi taqwaha, wa zakkiha, Anta Khairu mann zakkaha, Anta Waliyuha, wa Maulaha”. It means, “O Allah! Grant me the sense of piety and purify my soul as You are the Best to purify it. You are its Guardian and its Protecting Friend”.

      3) Astagfar (Seeking Forgiveness) – No matter what kind of calamity or problem we may be facing, we must always be engaged in Astagfar, even during menses/nifas. There are many ways of doing Astagfar, but the superior and most comprehensive way to seek forgiveness from Allah is to recite Saeed Ul Astagfar [Bukhari,Volume 8, Book 75, Number 318]. “‘Allahumma anta Rabbi la ilaha illa anta, Anta Khalaqtani wa ana abduka, wa ana ‘ala ahdika wa wa’dika mastata’tu, A’udhu bika min Sharri ma sana’tu, abu’u Laka bini’matika ‘alaiya, wa Abu Laka bidhanbi faghfirli innahu la yaghfiru adhdhunuba illa ant”. Which means, “O Allaah, You are my Lord. None has the right to be wrshipped except You. You created me, and I am Your slave/worshipper. And I am faithful to my covenant and my promise as far as I am able. I seek Your refuge from the evil of what I have done. I acknowledge before You all the favours that You have bestowed upon me. And I confess all my sins to You. So forgive me, since none can forgive sins except You.”

      4) Duas (Supplications) – Use this time to make lots of dua for yourself, your family, friends and the entire Ummah. You can read some of them from the Quran and Sunnah or do it in your own words as long as it is something permissible. Ask Allah (swt) for correct guidance, good life in this world and the hereafter, a place in Al Firdaws and protection from the trials of grave and the fire.

      5) Adhkar (Remembrance) – Never ever leave out your morning and evening adhkar and also those before going to bed and after waking up. Do a lot of tasbeeh. For example 1) SubhanAllahi wabihamdihi, SubhanAllahil Azeem 2) SubhanAllah, Alhamdulillah, Walailahi Illahu, Wallahu Akbar 3) Lailaha Illallah with Lahawla Wala Quwwata Illa Billah

      6) Sadaqa (Charity) – It is not only financial, you can even prepare food and distribute it, visit your neighbors, smile at a Muslim, visit patients in hospitals and make dua for them or get them the things they might need. And then you can even donate some money to the needy or Islamic causes.

      7) Ilm (Seek Knowledge/Teach) – Try to read the biography of our Prophet (peace be upon him), biographies of the Sahaba (may Allah be pleased with them) and that of the pious Salaf. Also explore a particular topic of interest in Islam, for example, Tawheed, the rulings of Zakah, rights and obligations of spouses/children etc. If you find it difficult to read, you could even listen to audio lectures which can downloaded for free from a variety of websites.

      8) Quran – The majority of the scholars have said that you can recite the Quran during menses/nifas. It can be done either from your memory or while wearing hand gloves if you intend to read from the Mus-haf, particularly if you are a teacher/student of hifdh (Quran memorization) or revising the memorized bits.

      9) Family – Be nice to the family and help them as much as you can.

      10) Rest – I know we all tend to get moody during this time, but remember to protect your tongue from committing sins due to the moodiness. Look after yourself and take care of your body as it has rights on us. While resting, you may engage in some of the points mentioned above. And don’t forget to drink camomile tea as I find it very soothing for the moodiness. While you are at it, remember to thank Allah for the camomile flowers and the ability to make that tea :)

      On a side note, just make sure that you are aware of the difference between menses/nifas and Istihada. Women are allowed to offer Salah, Tawaf and observe fasts during Istihada, unlike menses/nifas. Let me know if you want me to explain the difference.

      If you need helpful website links or if anything isn’t clear and requires further explanation, then you are most welcome to email me. The address is at the end of the article above.

      I pray that Allah makes me, you and anyone else who comes across this benefit from it. Any mistakes in it are solely from me and any good in it is solely from Allah. Alhamdulillah.

      And Allah knows best. Assalamu Alaykum.

      Your sister,
      Nabila Usman

      • Salam dear sister, Jazakillah for the very helpful article.

        Just a note, many of the contemporary scholars have said that one can offer Quran, but traditional scholars still hold to the impermissibility of tilawah during those days. Since this is such a sensitive matter, it would be best to be on the safe-side and not do tilawah, even when one finds no other reason to prefer traditional scholars over contemporary ones. That said, recitation from memory of surahs & ayahs recited as duas, such as Surah Ikhlas, Surah Falaq & Surah Naas, Ayatul Kursi etc is unanimously jaaiz.

        Wassalam

      • salaam sister i read your post now… this is a gem at this point of time..i immensely thank allah for this may allah bless u n ur work..jazakallah

    • Walaykum Assalam brother. JazakAllahu Khairan. May Allah (swt) make it beneficial for everyone who reads and shares it, Ameen.

  2. JAZAKALLAH U KHAYRAN for this post.Just wanted to add an ayah from surah Al-mu’minun that clears the importance of khushu in Salah.

    Certainly will the believers have succeeded:They who are during their prayer humbly submissive.

    Qur’an (23:1 and 23:2)

  3. Assalamualekum ! Masha ALLAH this article is indeed helpful and benifitting . Can i ask a question that my friend has a problem. that she keeps breaking her salahs because she thinks that she is not submissive she tries her very beat to concentrate but sometimes she loses concentration and she thinks that the her prayer is invalid and she breaks it . this happens many times. i made her reaswerd this article and she found it helpful but she wanted you to answer this question.
    Jazak ALLAH

    • Wa alaikum assalaam warahmatullah Sr. Fatima,

      Thank you for sharing your friend’s concern. JazakiAllah khair for having her read this article. Our main goal is to strive to develop utmost concentration. That is what Allah (SWT) commands. We’re bound to be distracted; even the Sahaabah (RAA) were distracted. Rather than breaking prayer and restarting, we’re to keep going and continue refreshing our concentration throughout Salah. Here is more detail on the Sahaabah’s (RAA) experience with distractions: http://islamqa.info/en/ref/25778. Also, here’s a detailed video on the Prophet’s (SAW) Salaah: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f8V-4Nt8mjg.

      Please share them with your friend. :) May Allah make it easy for her and accept it. Ameen.