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  1. So what do you do when the negative people in your life are people you must interact with, especially when they are close family?

    •  I agree with hiba.sometimes we have people in our families, we cnt have distance.some way or other they will pinpoint something in a negative way in jealousy  and it eventually drags us towards a negative state of mind and resist us towards our goals for some time.

      • There will always be negative people that you can’t avoid, family or otherwise, and I am in this situation now. But I see this as an opportunity and a challenge rather than an obstacle. How much better will your positive thinking be if you can practice against those people who try to bring you down? It’s like carrying weights when you’re walking, so that when you take them off, you feel like you’re flying. This will only make you a stronger positive thinker if you can keep it up despite their negative energy, and I have personally found that to be the case. 

      • This is very true there are ALWAYS (sadly) going to be people who will try to break you down with either small comments to hurt you or massive ones which are just pure spiteful, but just leave it to Allah. If someone wrongs you forgive them, you’ll sleep better at night! But just leave it to Allah..

    • I would say that there are two types of criticisms; they are either constructive or destructive. Family tends to have constructive criticisms which will always help you to become a better person.

      In summary, never avoid your family, particularly mothers.

  2. Extremely informative and helpful. Keep up the great work! But I must add, I thought of the same question Hiba posted below.

    • Assalamu Alaikum warehmatullahi wabarakatuhu!

      Sister Hiba has put up a very good question and brother Mohammae has answered it well, that criticism is of two types constructive and destructive. I would like to add a few more things. A criticism is a criticism, it depends on you who you take it. You must have heard, ‘Take the best forget the rest’. If you will try to locate an advice in that critical comment of your mother it will definitely benefit you. But if you will just focus on the way she spoke, I mean her tone, it will never benefit you rather it will be destructive.

      Let me give an example. Its time for dinner and you are sitting with your assignment, and your mother expects you to help her in the kitchen. And she comes angrily shouting at you, ‘oh? You are good for nothing, these studies are not everything (be it the study of deen nor world). You are useless.

      Remember she never meant that you are useless, if you will analyse her words you will see that she just wants you to be smart enough, to carry every task.

  3. There is a tendency for us to have negative self-talk such as “I can’t do it” or “I am not good at it.” The moment we have these negative self-talk, that’s when we have set our own failures. The key is to stay positive and believe that Allah is always there for you. Oh..and smiling can really make you feel positive too! So, what are you waiting for? Smile! :)

  4. Jazakillah sis Al Insyirah!

    “2. Fake it until you make it.
    If you can’t get over your negative thoughts, just be a fake positive thinker.”

    This totally struck a chord because I realised that I’ve been doing it for awhile. :D Alhamdulillah I feel like I’m less of a fake now.

  5. Once, when I was listening to Hutbah, the imaam told us about one event of the Prophet’s s.a.w.s. life. It is narrated by Aisha r.a. I think, that one day Prophet s.a.w.s. heared  his companions laughing outside. He went out and said to them, that if they knew what he knows, they would not be laughing, but crying. Allah s.w.t. sent angel Gebrail, to remind the Prophet s.a.w.s. that Allah s.w.t. will judge them, and that he has no right to bring hopelessness amongst His servants. After that, the Prophet s.a.w.s. went out and said to his companions to carry on with what they were doing.
    I apologize for my english :)
    Salam from Bosnia and Herzegovina.

  6. ASSALAAMUALYKUM..IM JUST 18 ND IN MY OPINION I HAVE DONE QUITE A LOT OF SINS IN MY LIFE..I EVEN HAD SUICIDAL TENDENCIES BECAUSE OF MY NEGATIVE THINKING….ASTAGHFIRULLAH..AND THEN I STARTED THINKING AND LIVING A POSITIVE LIFE WHEN I KNEW THAT SUICIDE IS HARAM IN ISLAM AND ALLAH FORGIVES ALL SINS WHEN ONE REPENTS SINCERELY..SO I REPENTED AND FROM THEN ON IM LIVING AND BREATHING COMFORTABLY AS I HAVE TAWAKKAL ON ALLAH NOW..ALHUMDULILAHI RABBIL ALAMEEN..
    JAZAKILLAH UKHTI FOR THIS ARTICLE..IT REALLY DID MOTIVATE ME :) MAY ALLAH BLESS U..ND I HOPE TO READ MORE OF YOUR ARTICLES INSHALLAH :)

  7. Assalamualaikum. About negative influences… if we remain in zikr, and not allow them to provoke us.. if we recognize their toxicity, separate our hearts from them, while interacting on the surface as necessary, they cannot affect us. Don’t let their words penetrate to your heart. Like Ibn Taymiyyah said, about not letting burdensome companions reach your heart..

    “…he should remove his heart from among them the way a hair is removed from dough. Among them he should be present yet absent, close yet far and asleep yet awake. He should look at them and not see them, hear their words but not be conscious of them, because he has removed his heart from among them and ascended with it to the uppermost hosts (al-mala’il-a’laa) glorifying [Allaah] around the throne along with the pure celestial spirits.
    How difficult this is and trying for the souls, [yet] it is easy for whoever Allaah makes it easy. ”
    http://islam2011.tumblr.com/post/45625584669/effects-of-the-five-heart-corrupters-ibn-al-qayyim

  8. Assallam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh. Walahi, I love this post. I was a kind of person that thinks negatively most times, but now Alhamdulillah, Allah has made it 2 reduce. When I embark on a project. I think of it failing due 2 negative felings embeded in me.Allahu musta’aan

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