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  1. Assalamu aleykum,

    I would like to see a more serious discussion of pregnancy and childbirth for Muslimahs. The pregnancy diaries were nice, but they lacked encouragement for Muslimahs to be critical thinkers about their pregnancy and birth options. It assumed a medicalized version of childbirth that does not help women prepare for the hard work of childbirth or open them up to spiritual depth of this great experience.

    More and more Muslim women are choosing natural childbirth in the sanctity of their homes, a birth center, and even hospitals (but in a very different way). Muslimahs are studying childbirth beforehand, and preparing themselves to be the strong and in control during their labors. As the leader-servants of our families, becoming educated in how to keep ourselves and our babies safe and healthy during labor is an important sacred responsibility.

    Here are a few links from Muslimahs helping to raise the level of discussion around pregnancy in the Muslim community:

    http://birthrite.me/
    http://hakimamidwifery.blogspot.com/
    http://www.barakabirth.com

    To Muslimahs!

    • Jazakillah khairan ya ukhtee, this was exactly what i was looking for, thanks for the links, I know its been long since u sent this but alhamdulillah it is very helpful for me now…. may Allah grant you and you family taqwa in this blessed month and grant you the highest place in jannah! ameen

  2. congrats to sister Tasnim Nazeer mashallah really loved this series, need to pack my hospital bag soon so this will help need all your duas.

  3. Assalamu’Alaikum,
    I heard Hadith related to Rajab and Sha’ban is not from the authentic narrations. Because i see you have posted this along with Ramadan Countdown calender. Please ensure.

    • Waalaikumasalaam wa rahmatullah Br. Asif,

      JazakAllah khair for pointing that out – you are indeed correct in that the dua is not support by an authentic hadith and is thus weak. However, do note that that is acceptable to make the dua so long as we know that it is potentially not one which the Prophet made and thus do not assume that supplicating with it carries extra rewards. This is pointed out in the following response from http://www.islamqa.ca (http://islamqa.info/en/202017). Specifically, it is mentioned that:

      ” …..it is a du‘aa’ that asks for blessing during that month in general terms, which is something that is valid to do in Rajab and also before Rajab”.

      Additionally,

      “With regard to the Muslim asking his Lord to let him reach Ramadan, there is nothing wrong with that”.

      We completely understand where the confusion/misunderstanding can arise from, however, we do hope this clarifies things, in sha Allah!

  4. There is no saheeh hadeeth from the Prophet that speaks of the virtues of the month of Rajab. Please see the answers to questions no. 75394 and 171509

    Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

    There is no saheeh hadeeth that speaks of the virtues of Rajab. The month of Rajab is no different from the month of Jumaada al-Aakhirah that comes before it, except that it is one of the sacred months only. Otherwise there is no fast that is prescribed in this month, and no prayer or ‘umrah or anything else that is prescribed. It is like all other months. End quote.

    Liqa’ al-Baab al-Maftooh (174/26).

    Secondly:

    It was narrated by ‘Abdullah, the son of Imam Ahmad, in Zawaa’id al-Musnad (2346), at-Tabaraani in al-Awsat (3939), al-Bayhaqi in ash-Shu‘ab (3534) and Abu Nu‘aym in al-Hilyah (6/269) via Zaa’idah ibn Abi ar-Ruqaad who said: Ziyaad al-Numayri told us, from Anas ibn Maalik who said: When Rajab began, the Messenger of Allah (blessing and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “O Allah, bless us in Rajab and Sha‘baan, and let us reach Ramadan.”

    This isnaad is da‘eef. Ziyaad al-Numayri is da‘eef and was classed as such by Ibn Ma‘een. Abu Haatim said: He cannot be quoted as evidence. Ibn Hibbaan mentioned him in ad-Du‘afa’ and said: It is not permissible to quote him as evidence.

    Mizaan al-I‘tidaal (2/91)

    Zaa’idah ibn Abi ar-Ruqaad is more da‘eef than him. Abu Haatim said: He narrated from Ziyaad al-Numayri, from Anas, odd marfoo‘ hadeeths, which we know only from him or from Ziyaad. Al-Bukhaari said: His hadeeths are odd. an-Nasaa’i said: His hadeeths are odd. It says in al-Kuna: He is not trustworthy. Ibn Hibbaan said: He narrates odd hadeeths from well known people and his reports cannot be quoted as evidence or written down, except for the purpose of giving an example (of a weak hadeeth). Ibn ‘Adiyy said: al-Miqdami and others narrated from him obscure hadeeths, and some of his hadeeths contain odd material.

    Tahdheeb at-Tahdheeb (3/305-306).

    The hadeeth was classed as da‘eef by an-Nawawi in al-Adhkaar (p. 189) and Ibn Rajab in Lataa’if al-Ma‘aarif (p. 121). It was also classed as da‘eef by al-Albaani in Da‘eef al-Jaami‘ (4395). Al-Haythami said:

    It was narrated by al-Bazzaar, and its isnaad includes Zaa’idah ibn Abi ar-Ruqaad. Al-Bukhaari said: His hadeeth is odd, and a number of scholars regarded him as ignorant.

    Majma‘ az-Zawaa’id (2/165)

    Moreover, the hadeeth – in addition to being da‘eef – contains nothing to indicate that this should be said on the first night of the month of Rajab; rather it is a du‘aa’ that asks for blessing during that month in general terms, which is something that is valid to do in Rajab and also before Rajab.

    Thirdly:

    With regard to the Muslim asking his Lord to let him reach Ramadan, there is nothing wrong with that.

    Al-Haafiz Ibn Rajab (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

    Ma‘alla ibn al-Fadl said: They used to pray to Allah for six months, may He be exalted, asking Him to cause them to reach Ramadan, and they used to call upon Him for six months asking Him to accept it from them. Yahya ibn Abi Katheer said: One of their du‘aa’s was: “O Allah, keep me safe until Ramadan, keep Ramadan safe for me, and accept it from me.”

    End quote from Lataa’if al-Ma‘aarif (p. 148)

  5. Salamualaikum Tasnim Nazeer,
    Thank you very much for job well done, May Allah reward you abundantly and grant you Aljanah Fridaus, ameen. Your write up is very speritual and encouraging most men In Nigeria don’t usually have the expeince first experince with their spouse as the mother inlaw will like to have her under her care and you will glad that you been relief of the stress of taking her to antineter and whole lot of stress. Wow I can now stay laite at work and go out with friends during the weekend. The bigest deal about it is that she will not return home untill the child is 60 Day all old befor she will be allowed to return. I strongly encourage you to keep on with the good work so that the brothers will appreciate their young spouse.
    Wasalam
    Abdulmumin Suleiman ibin Musa
    Nigeria, FCT

  6. Assalamu alaykum i really enjoyed this series mashallah this article was very helpful for me as I am in the second trimester of pregnancy and would like to prepare. i wish sister Tasnim a happy and healthy baby by the grace of Allah. I hope to read more like this inshyallah

  7. Assalamu alaykam Sister Tasnim Nazeer I liked your posts very much and hope to see more from you writing about parenting as I am due on the first week of June inshaallah and this has been beneficial in reading about your experience it is always good to have an experience from a Muslimah and i thank you in abundance for writing this personal account mashaallah with some very good tips. i willc errantly be using your checklist of what to pack as i have not even started yet :D

  8. Salaams jazakhallah khair ProM for publishing this I found this very insightful and well written May the Almighty bless the author sister Tasnim for writing this. I particularly liked the tips on getting organised. I am only two months pregnant and this is my second pregnancy I would like to contact sister personally please do let me know how I can do that :)

  9. Assalamu alaykam Sister Tasnim Nazeer I just wanted to say that i am in my last trimester and I am 7 in 1/2 pregnant this is my first child.. i just wanted to say thanks so much for the important things about being pregnant… I am doing my best to be strong and get ready for my labor… I hope that u can write me back when u can Insha’Allah… :)