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  1. MA SHA ALLAH ,Good learning.yesterday my nephew topped in the university and he was telling me khala a teacher made me today,after my ALLAH.HE was a total failure in the class,and then failed in 7th grade .every one including the parents were degrading him ,insults,scoldings,lectures…………./THEN next day a teacher of his called him and his parents and said just give her 3months time and the child.she said the same to the principal and promoted him saying that she can see the spark in the child.he said he can not ever forget those words of appreciation in the time when every one else was degrading him.she then worked day and night all the time saying that you can do appreciating in front of every one ,then he said for her sake i started studying and in the end of the he stood first.and yesterday he topped in his masters,ALHUMDULILLAH.

    • Masha’Allah, what a wonderful and inspiring story, Sister Nadia. May your story benefit many others. Ameen. Jazakalakhair and may Allah bless your and your nephew’s family with the good of this world and the hereafter and protect you from the hellfire.

      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

  2. Salaam,don’t FORGET to break from homeworks and ALL chores,games etc for SALAT.Also factor in TIME to review on The Holy Qur’an. Doing the dishes is not a deterrent.G.Jedda,May ALLAH SWT,reward you

  3. Great article jzk may Allah reward you for this wonderful advice, aunt uses similar systems and her son is doing great in school and Quran mashallah.

    • Wa Jazak Sister Kubra, I’m pleased to know reward systems are working with your aunt and her son, Masha’Allah. They are in deed very effective, Masha’Allah. And thank you and Jazakalakhair for your kind comments.

      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

  4. JazKum Allahu Khair for these useful information. The stars chart really worked with my children when they were young .i like the incentive options you shared .

    • Wa Jazak Sister Amani. I have found them to be a true benefit myself, Masha’allah. I’m pleased to know you enjoyed reading about the incentive options. May Allah bless you and your family with much good and many blessings.

      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

  5. Salam to all , I would like to set up this system for Salah and memorizing the Quran . To get kids in a regular habit and attached to the deen Insh Allah Jzk to all who write and share such wonderful articles a special thanks to Abu Productive for this website it really really boosts up my energy on the “LOW TIMES” i have .. May Allah swt reward you all with the best insh Allah ….

    • Wa Alaikum Salam,

      Masha’Allah, I’m so pleased to know that you found the article of benefit. May Allah bless you to be successful in all your efforts and to help many children grow closer to Allah through your work.

      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

    • Wa Alaikum Salam,
      Masha’Allah, I’m so pleased to know that you found the article of benefit. May Allah bless you to be successful in all your efforts and to help many children grow closer to Allah through your work.
      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

    • Wa Alaikum Salam Zaidi,
      I’m pleased to know that you found the article of benefit. May Allah bless you to be successful in all your efforts and to help many children grow closer to Allah through your work.
      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

  6. Salam! I enjoyed reading your article even though I am a college student. I thought I might be able to pick up some tricks for myself! One thing I do want to comment on is the use of “son” and “he” through out. Please do keep this in consideration that little girls may also use this chart for completing their homework or girls may use a modified version to recite/memorize the Quran. Therefore it would be nice if you say “he/she” and “sons and daughters” to show your readers that you are mindful of both the genders’ education.

    • Wa Alaikum Salam Sister,

      Thank you so much and Jazakalakhair for your kind reminder. You are so true. May Allah bless you with much success and much good throughout college and life.

      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah

  7. Assalaamualaikum
    Great article Sister. Cant wait to try it out soon InshaAllah. Which age groups does it work well for?

    • Wa Alaikum Salam Umm Adil,

      It works wonders with Kindergarten through 6th graders. I’ve had great success with my 7th through 9th graders as well. May Allah bless you with success.

      Your Sister in Islam
      Grandma Jedddah

  8. Aslamualakum,
    This is the 2nd time I’m reading a Grandma Jeddah article on productive Muslim that I don’t agree with at all so I though I’d comment. I don’t want to come across as confrontational so I’m just going to suggest a book to read I know 100% that you wont change your mind completely about incentives and extrinsic rewards but inshallah you will understand where the opposing view is coming from and that in fact it doesn’t conflict with Islamic thinking. Giving extrinsic rewards is known to decrease a person interest in the actual activity no matter what it is the focus goes on the reward and I think the worst place to use reward charts etc would be for learning for the best learning is always done when the person is enthusiastic about the subject matter rather than earning points to get a treat. The book you should check out is “Punished by Rewards, (The Trouble with Gold Stars, Incentive Plans, A’s, Praise, and Other Bribes) by Alfie Kohn. Very interesting read, I don’t expect anyone to agree with it 100% I certainly don’t but definitely articulates a lot of good points really well.

    • Bismillah Arahman Araheem

      Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah Wa Barakatu Sister Farah,

      Thank you so much and Jazakalakhair for sharing the book “Punished by Rewards” with me. I’ve heard about this subject and had actually been intending to read up on it. I look forward to learning more about it, insha’Allah.

      I agree with you. There are many ways to encourage our children to develop a joy for learning and to help them behave more appropriately without using incentive charts. In fact, I specifically mention 24 different ways we can guide our children’s behavior in a respectful, loving, and patient manner in my e-book DISCIPLINE WITHOUT DISRESPECTING: DISCOVER THE HIDDEN SECRETS OF HOW TO EFFECTIVELY DISCIPLINE YOUR MUSLIM CHILD–AND KEEP YOUR PEACE OF MIND WHILE AT IT, found on my website at http://www.grandmajeddah.com.

      Grandma Jeddah’s articles are intended to help Muslim parents find ways of guiding their children to proper behavior with respect and compassion, similar to the way our Prophet Muhammad (saw) managed the young around him according to hadith. This objective can certainly be achieved in a host of ways.

      I have a personal fondness for incentive charts because I have found them to be remarkably successful in managing the behavior of my 11 children, those of my 13 grandchildren that I am in contact with, and many of the 100’s of students I have taught for over 30 years, Masha’Allah.

      Jazakalakhair, again, and may Allah bless you and your family with the good of this world and the hereafter and protect you from the hellfire.

      Your Sister in Islam,
      Grandma Jeddah