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  1. Salam I teach a group of muslim girls in Australia, and bullying has been experience by at least half the class. Mashallah your references to Quranic verses and Hadith really reinforce the help them deal much better with having these information. Jazakallah Khar. Appreciate your advice.

  2. This is incredible.It’s been a few months since I last went on to Productive Muslim,and although I didn’t know it at the time, I was being bullied. I had a “friend” who would say stuff like “Oh my god,you are so useless,” then she’s burst out laughing and go “I’m just kidding!” When I tried to ignore her she could still tell I was upset and if I did show any signs of being upset she would go “I am so sorry.I was just kidding! You are SO sensitive. God.” or something like that. And as it happens I had no idea I was being bullied. I didn’t tell any adult for a long time till one day I stormed home,burst into tears,and my mom called my teacher. As a matter of fact the bullying stopped but I’m still dealing with my “friend “and learning how to respond to any barb that she sticks in conversation. One thing I would suggest is: Just tell them how to stop. If someone is bullying you under the guise of a friend, look at them calmly and say ” That was really mean.”And if they do it again you tell them “Don’t talk to me like that” and then tell an adult.Maybe you’re thinking “What’s the point of telling them to stop? They know it hurts me and they know they should stop.”But the power of a “Don’t ever talk to me like that again” is very,very strong. Don’t doubt yourself,don’t think you’re overreacting,(even if everyone else is looking at you like you are) and don’t ever keep it to yourself. You have power which no one can take away from you.
    Jazakallah khair for bringing this issue to light.
    – an eighth grader

  3. By the way,I don’t really agree with what the author has said with regard to adult intervention. If I never told anyone what was going on would probably still be bullied to this day.
    One more tip:Don’t waste your energy hating the person. It’s not good for you.Really,it isn’t.

  4. alhamdullilah, you have sent us this article it is such a marvellous article. may all bless you all in your hard work. Ameen

  5. It was staggering reading this as I realised that I have an adult in my family who is a bully, SubahānAllāh! I always wondered what was wrong with her…
    At least now we know how to handle these situations with her.
    I appreciate the post.

  6. I’m 16 and a girl and I just started college in 2013. I get harassed by a few girls in college for no apparent reason. I don’t know them and they don’t know me although I know that they hang out and talk to a girl that doesn’t like me. I’ve never done or said anything to any of them but their presence just makes me uncomfortable. The give me dirty looks and try to start fights and talk about me whenever they see me. Also one of the girls is known to cause fights and is kind of aggressive. People and my friends have told me that they don’t like me cause they’re jealous of me and I don’t know why. Their presence is just ruining my whole college experience and I don’t feel like going to college anymore. Whenever I see them my heart races because I’m sacred that they might hurt me or spread and say nasty things about me. I try my best to avoid them but it’s getting hard because they’re in the same building as me and hang out in my building too. I actually ended up in tears once in college because it all just became too much. I don’t know what to do? I know Allah is testing me and He knows what I’m going through. I just need some advice on what I should do and inshallah Allah will give me the Sabr and strength to get through this