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  1. I’m glad someone started a talk about this! I’ve been depressed and lost because of this addiction. I remember I wanted not to do it but my brain needed it. I’m a girl btw. It is horrible. I remember I cried and I begged Allah to help me, after 10 years of this addition. Then I found out about fortifyprogram.org and fightthenewdrug site. It is so helpful and online. Life is so much more beautiful without porn.

  2. This is a great piece! I’ve never actually knew that porn addiction is very real and a form of disease. Brother Wael is right: “The reason why we are judgmental in general is that we tend to forget that we too are sinful. The only difference is that our sins are still hidden and no one knows about them except Allah subḥānahu wa ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He). However, when someone else’s sin is being exposed we tend to react as if we are angels and have never committed any shameful activity throughout our lives.” If a lot of muslims are affected by this, we need to change our mindset. Stop looking down on others’ sins. They need our help and we need to do something about it. Jazakallahu khairan Brother for making me realize that.

  3. SALAM,

    I am a college student. I wouldn’t say I am a devout Muslim, but I am trying to practice the DEEN.

    I really liked reading the whole article. I wanted to ask that if there is any advisor/consultant on you behalf or a way to contact brother Ibrahim for help in this matter: nationally or internationally, in-person or online?

    Also, I’ve been gathering points and ways to tackle this grave issue our UMMAH faces from a long time, and I feel I have
    some good stuff that I’d like to share.

    Jazakallah

    Nafiur

  4. MashAllah this is such a timely and helpful article. May Allah bless this brother and Productive Muslim for having the courage to address this taboo topic. One quote I especially love from the article is: “Aside from the above reasons, some Muslims think that they are hypocrites and that Allah subḥānahu wa ta’āla (glorified and exalted be He) will never forgive them, because they know that pornography is prohibited, yet they cannot quit. To them, I would say that hypocrisy is to pretend that you believe in something, yet practice something else. However, in your case you are not pretending at all; you are compelled as a result of your addiction. You are struggling and that’s enough evidence that you are sincere and doing your best to get rid of this very compulsive habit.”

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  5. Assalam Waliakum..
    Thank you for posting this.. It really means a lot! Everything written is absolutely true.. I don’t feel good at all about this addiction and I hate admitting it too!
    Allah is truely great.. It was only yesterday I prayed to allah to help me get rid of this addiction and awful feeling.. And today I read about this!

  6. Salam
    May Allah swt give abundant reward to brother for this post. Indeed, it is a courageous
    Step to write on it.
    I am a doctor and a student of islamic studies for the very first time i am able to relate the scientific facts with the spiritual aspect.
    DOPAMINE is a vital and precursor hormone in brain. We need it for our motor activities. Our stress hormones norepinephrine and epinephrine are made from dopamine.
    So, when one uses it massively for prohibited things there would be depletion of epi and norepinephrine. Exactly same things happen in depression, all hormones secretion goes down which are required to act proactively, to feel motivated and excited. This hormonal imbalance is also responsible for anxiety.
    Allah swt says in quran that we have treasures of everything and we give it to people according to a precise scale. So, it is our choice where we are going to use it, as supply is limited.A hormone releases in a specific quantity in our blood.
    I have worked in psychiatry ward too, addiction has a neural circuit and brother describe the same reward circuit for porno addiction. I can visualize my patients who are sober looking but how badly they cried out of helplessness that they feel about quitting their unwanted behaviour. It required will power and a professional help to break that loop. Please, remember all those people in your duaas who are fighting hidden battles
    May Allah swt give all of us power to overcome our nafs and shaytan.
    I read a book HAYA AUR PAAKDAMNI by shaykh zulfiqar ahmad on topic of keeping modesty. It is a highly recommended book it has described all kinds of islamic ways to save from lust. By visiting his website tasawwuf.org one can get that nook

  7. Salam
    I found one other website very effective to listen islamic lectures its islamicspirituality.org by shaykh kamaluddin ahmad. He has hundreds of students for purification of heart. So if anyone is interested to have somebody trusred with whom he or she can discuss ongoing problems, they can avail it.
    I learnt one thing about tauba is that it should not be because of a worldly loss…it should be based on the feeling that how far i have come from my Allah swt.
    Learning tafseer of surah yousuf is also very helpful because it address the issue of saving from fitna. I heard it on tasawwuf.org by shaykh zulfiqar ahmad it is amazing.
    Repent, cry and pray at tahujjud time. Especially 2 rakat nafal with intention to seek help of Allah swt.we can stay away from sins due to His karam and fazal.
    One of the greatest islsmic scholar maulana ashraf ali thanvi advise to his students that if u do a sin then pray 20 rakat to punish your nafas as it will be heavy on nafas. After 3 or 4 times you will stay away.
    NIP THE EVIL IN THE BUD….leave the source of the sin…at times nothing works unless you leave the source of the sins. Never testify and trust your nafas..it is nit designed ti be tested.it will break.
    Stay proactive..get busy and follow as much sunnah as you can..hazrat bayuzeed bustint ra said i did many kinds of mujahidas and the hardest one on my nafas was following sunnah..
    May our names would be in list of those people who are modest in Allah swt eyes.Aameen

  8. Thank you for addressing this topic. The addiction of porn and masturbation have killed ideas, time(10 yrs), opportunity and productivity.
    It negatively affected my physical health, my brain performance , my spiritual strength, my sociability and my financial status.
    Luckily, though I regretted for living a miserable life: a life of failure with little satisfaction, I was always hopefull in sha Allah that sooner or later I WILL/MUST overcome these additions and break free from all kinds of illicit sexual behaviors. By the way, I was engaged with this illicit behavior and I just deleted the browsing history ?( man, you seems to know addicts). Disatisfied with my recent temporary vague pleasure, visiting ProductiveMuslim came to my mind. I was actually overjoyed seeing this article on top of its blog, thus deciding to name my title for this comment alhamdulillah.
    The time for ceasing all unhealthy sexual behavior STARTS NOW after intentionally and consciously deciding to follow this beneficial article while I look forward to the remaining articles in sha Allah.
    This starts my journey towards purity of mind, soul, heart and body.
    Ten years from now, I see myself a different person: a happy, healthy, pure, fulfilled, wise and rich ME. You are making the realization of this wholesome lofty goals possible with these series.
    Jazakallah khayr everyone involved in the publication of this article.

  9. Jazakallah bi khoir for the article. I think this addiction has spread widely, especially to teenagers..need special attention, as well from parents and school. Internet is everywhere now and the access is easier. Looking forward for the part 2.

  10. I cried reading this. You wrote this so compassionately.
    This bit:
    ‘Pornography promises nothing but isolation, depression, anxiety and a severe lack of motivation, due to the drop of dopamine level in your brain or when it is produced in greater quantities.’
    I didn’t know that. I mean, I knew porn had something to do with why i was so flat and out of the game for about four years, but I thought it was an aside, a by-product, not a cause. I didn’t realise that it scientifically affected me and had such deep implications.
    I feel quite empty about that.
    Truly, I started just out of curiosity, but the older I get, the more I need companionship, the more I am desperate to connect with someone who will love me, and this poor imitation does nothing but make me feel more lonely than ever, and so full of self hatred, and so distant from Allah. I seem to flick back and forth, I can stop, but then I want to go back to it, EVEN when I’m not hormonal. What level of shaytaan I’ve ingrained into my psyche is something I don’t even want to know about. Terrifying. And when I’m actually spiritually connected, I can’t believe this same person has seen so much filth. It’s so sad, and I worry it will effect me in the future, in ways I can’t foresee now.

    But, as an almost-unconnected aside; I wish people would LISTEN to girls when they say they NEED to get married. Do they not think that we have a sexual drive too? It is very unfair. I’m not saying I wouldn’t have done all the things I did; I don’t know how things would have turned out. But I think getting married would have given me what it was i actually wanted, i.e companionship, love, sex, babies. Just food for thought.

    I didn’t think I’d leave such a long comment, but thank you for reading this, and jazaakAllah for writing this article. May Allah help us, and forgive us our weaknesses, and make us strong in imaan. Aameen.

  11. Jazaak Allaah wa Khair. Maa sha Allaah very good post. Best topic to share with our youth. And educate them to stay away from secret habits rather facing depression ahead.

  12. Jazak ALLAH khairn
    Infotmative
    Motivational Article
    InshaALLAH I will try to quite porn it’s to hard for me I try,try,try but in the end I lost

  13. Jazaakumu llahu khayran : I hope maa shaha llah, this have a good impacts in my life. May He (Allah) through this programme deliver me and other Muslims who are addicted to this shameful act.

  14. Jazakallah khairan katsiran to Brother Wael and Brothers and Sisters in ProductiveMuslim! The struggle in fight against pornography and masturbation is real, indeed, and an addict is profoundly prone in catching depression coming from failures in breaking their addiction (and all those brain chemistries). I am so glad that there are actually people who put their time and effort into curing the addiction of 21st century that in no doubt has robbed so many productivity, especially for us in the muslim world.

    I consider myself an addict too and the timing of this article couldn’t be better masha Allah. I am planning to take steps into marriage in year 2016 and I am very determined to knock this satanic addiction once and for all from myself. In 8 years I fought myself with disgust, wasting approximately half a year worth of time in total (!) just watching porns and masturbating and dealing with post-binge depression. It was so stressful, and everytime I decide I have enough, somehow the porno always managed to slip back into my life. But this time I am more determined than ever inshaAllah, and perhaps through the help of good people here in ProductiveMuslim, I can finally break free from this circle of addiction, biidznillah.

    I pray to Allah that He will grant me strenghth in this holy war of mine. I sincerely hope for the prayers of the nice people in ProductiveMuslim, be it the admins, members, and the visitors alike. May the prayers go to all brothers and sisters fighting similar battle with me all around the world too. Barakallah!

  15. Please help me!!! I have been battling with this for about 8 years. Alhamdulillah, I had periods of sobriety in the past, some of those were even of length one year or more; but every time I slipped afterwards. I realized that the main reasons of my slips in the past were: due to my work/study, I had to go to college campuses in spring/summer or in some beach areas where I got glimpses of nakedness.

    When I get any such trigger, I lose control of my mind and fail to focus on work/study even after trying very hard; my mind starts to remind of the scene I just have seen in the street and fantasizes it; my self-talk at that time goes like: WOW, what did I just saw! If I could only do x,y,z with that girl/those girls, etc; no! stop! that’s Haram!!! focus on your study, you can only do that with your wife! But I don’t have a wife, it’s all my parent’s fault! only if I had such a beautiful wife who would sit in this way with this cloth, I would certainly do …; wait, you are again daydreaming, focus on your work; but what’s the point of work/study/earning money if I don’t get what I’ve been wanting for last … years?; … it goes like this on and on …

    I found only one quick solution to forget about such things (at least temporarily): sleep, right then and there. Fasting certainly makes me extra cautious about lowering my gaze and it lowers my desires, as well. However, from my long battle against this problem, I can certainly tell you that none of these seem to give permanent/long-term solution. In fact, fasting often and sleeping too much — both significantly lowers my productivity level.

    Note that, I pray five times/day in congregation and I go to the Masjid every day (mostly for Magrib and/or Isha). I fast quite often (to control my desire) and try my best to lower my gaze: I don’t look around the street unless I need to talk to someone or need to cross the street, etc; I don’t typically watch movies either; if I really want to, I watch very old English movies or Irani movies — where the women are covered/modestly-dressed. I use Evernote Clearly extention with google chrome so that I don’t encounter sexy ads which appear beside news/other articles. I keep safety feature of google-search on, as well. In short, I took different precautions to prevent any kind of trigger.

    However, when I get any trigger, I get it real bad. Even if I can survive a number of triggers; after some time, and specially after some BIG triggers (which are sure to happen to someone living in the western world), my conscience become weak, I tend to give up, and I hook on to the forbidden things which I knew would be able to calm down/sate my desire. Once I hook up, I tend to watch anything/everything that I’ve been missing for last few months/year and shut up my conscience by arguing that I won’t be able to see those for next few months; if I don’t see all those now then I will be captivated to my desire very soon (which happened before), so let me see whatever I like :(

    I really want TOTAL FREEDOM once and for all and I really want to be a slave of only Allah. Don’t tell me to just fast and to lower my gaze; even if I lower my gaze, I can unintentionally encounter exposed legs of the girls who are walking beside me. How can I solve this problem?

    Please help and make dua for me.

  16. Jazaakum Allah Khayran for this piece.

    I also receive countless emails from Muslim youth who face the same challenge and have been battling with this addiction for years. Its worrying to watch especially our younger generation being reduced to mere slaves of their desires rather than true slaves of Allah (swt).

    Education and awareness is key so Alhamdulillah for this enlightening post.

    I look forward to seeing more leaders in this field create online opportunities and resources for those suffering in silence to access the best help and support they can within the framework of Islam.

    Look forward to the next part insha Allah.

  17. Jazzakallah Khairah brother assalam aleikm I have a problem watching movies made me forget the Quran n am struggling to move the stuff out ma brain but all in vein how can I fluss out that dirty stuff n be pure again go read n Master the Quran

  18. May Allah bless brother Ibrahim and Productive Muslim team for this excellent article. We have duas for our teenagers that Alalh help them overcome this big problem of theirs so that they can adhere to the rope of Allah tightly.

  19. My husband is addicted and he does not want to quit it or listen and justifies by saying that he watches rarely. I feel frustrated at times. What can I do or how can you help me to save him from this. He has spent thousands on pornographic subscriptions. He works and stays away from home alone. I am worried. Please help.

  20. I am very excited after reading this interview, and very much inspired of your article. I am from Pakistanm, and senior journalist and life coach. I have also written a book for youth: Nojawanon k jinsi masail (Sex issues of youth) in Urdu. Now, I want to publish your interview in Urdu after translating it into Urdu with your permission and reference. This will be published on my websites and fb pages.
    Allah may accept your efforts and give you barakah in this world and maghfirah in the next world. Ameen

  21. About the book regarding the “Islamic guide to sexual relationship”, when do you think it’s better for a young person to read it? Read it before marriage or after marriage? I am 22 years old now, I am afraid of reading that book because I feel like I am not ready yet and still not married.

  22. Jzk for tackling this issue, brother Wael.

    Porn destroys. It destroys you. It destroys those around you.

    It especially destroys your wife. Especially your Muslim wife who has exposed herself only to you, being able to receive affirmation from only you. Unfortunately, even when you quit, some of that damage is there to stay forever. It’s difficult to fix her self-esteem; she’s going to find it difficult to believe that you think she’s beautiful. You can’t wipe away the memories; what she lived, what she saw. And you can’t erase that scar on her heart.

    Brother Wael, it would be great if you could write a piece directed to the spouses of addicts/ex-addicts who have chosen to stay with their husbands/wives, despite the pain. Please, advise us on how we forgive and feel worthy again.

    Jzk
    Wassalam

  23. Assalaam Alaykum

    MashaAllah, this is very very useful article which will help us as parents to use as a preventive tool for ourselves and help our grownup children before falling under this sin.

    BarakaAllah Fiikum

  24. assalam o alaikum,
    Sir you said in this interview that
    “Addicts are mostly unaware that porn movies are all scripted and unreal”
    What is its meaning, that porn are made using software just like photo shop etc.. OR porn industry selects Porn star and give them payments for porn movies.

  25. Jazaakum Allah Khayran for this piece.
    I am living in a Muslim country. I discussed this issue with a friend, and found that almost my every friend who has internet access is addicted to these bad habits. They are waiting for someone that can help them. They want to tell their “Imam Masjid” and Religious Scholar but they can’t.
    May Allah grant you a great reward for this.

  26. I suggest to anyone who has fallen into this trap to sincerely question why they are addicted to Porn and think of the consequences it has on your health, wellbeing and social interactions.
    Seek Allah’s protection from this filth.
    i too became addicted and i sought Allahs help alone, i would pray, i continuously fell back but have found myself on the other side, not wishing to look at my devices and those sites.
    my ultimate contribution to saving myself was going on pilgrimage and when i saw where i was and what i was (muslim) and how this can affect our basic relationship with allah, whilst in tawaaf i prayed to rid myself of even the need to gaze upon this.
    everyone has their own goals and paths to rid themselves and our ultimate goal is paradise!
    how can you attain paradise by committing evil actions?
    then you realise chose Allah over this and he will guide you in ways you did not think.
    i pray this type of guidance/lectures continue to rid muslims of this desease