How to Show Gratitude for the Blessing of Motherhood

How to Show Gratitude for the Blessing of Motherhood - Productive Muslim

Motherhood is a blessing which has been given to us by Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). It’s full of ups and downs, tears and laughs. At times tiring, other times energising. Let’s face it, being a mother in the 21st century is not easy; so here are a few tips to keep you on your toes.

What is motherhood? The responsibility of nurturing a child. The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) stated: ‘Paradise lies at the feet of your mother’ [Sunan An-Nasâ’i]. This clearly indicates the importance of mothers and the high status they were given by Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). Mothers are the first point of comfort in a horrible situation, and therefore motherhood should not be taken as a light matter.

A man came to the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most worthy of my good companionship?’ The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Your mother.’ The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Then your mother.’ The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Then your mother.’ The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: ‘Then your father.’ [Muslim].

While there is an abundance of tips on fulfilling one’s role as a mother, here are a few important ones I have compiled for you:

1. Pray to Allah: Make regular dua to Allah, the power of dua is so immense. Say: “My Lord! Grant me righteous offspring.” [Quran: Chapter 37, Verse 100] as much as you can.

2. Strive to be caring and compassionate: Be patient with your child whatever the situation. Always remember children are innocent and need your mercy. The following was reported about the Messenger of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) : “I never saw anyone who was more compassionate towards children than Allah’s Messenger ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him). His son Ibrahim was in the care of a wet nurse in the hills around Madinah. He would go there, and we would go with him, and he would enter the house, pick up his son and kiss him, then come back.” [Muslim]

The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said: “A’isha, verily Allah is kind and He loves kindness and confers upon kindness which he does not confer upon severity and does not confer upon anything else besides it (kindness). [Muslim]

3. Praise them regularly: This is a very powerful technique and will make them proud of themselves and confident.

4. Ensure your child loves Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He): Reminding them of all the blessings Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) has showered upon them i.e. the eyes, ears, tongue, legs, etc. the list is endless. This will instill only love and make them appreciative and grateful towards Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). Also, in adulthood, it will incline them to the way of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) inshallah.

5. Be very friendly: This includes having regular talks about random things, this will make them feel comfortable with you in the long run. Also play with your child as much as possible; trust me – they love this kind of thing.

6. Teach them responsibility: From a young age give them responsibilities i.e. for their toys and rooms.

7. Keep them away from gadgets: In this fast growing environment it’s so hard to keep up with technology for adults let alone children. Have we stopped to wonder how this is affecting our lifestyles? In the name of efficiency and effectiveness, a new gadget is released for kids almost every day. You should try and encourage your child to play outside rather than on the PSP or iPhone. Encourage them to read a book rather than playing on the computer. I found that the more gadgets a child has, the lazier they become.

8. Inspire them: Rather than making them fantasize about Spiderman and Barbie, tell them about real heroes like Abu Baqr as Sadiq, Umar, Uthman and Ali raḍyAllāhu 'anhum (may Allāh be pleased with them). For the girls, Asiya, Maryam, Khadiha and Fatima [ranham]. Tell them how these heroes and heroines strove for Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and how they spread Islam.

9. Involve them in acts of worship: If they grow up with your Islamic character, it won’t be a burden for them when they are older. Pray with them, recite Quran together, and discuss Islamic issues with them as a family. If they grow up seeing these values in effect from childhood, they will easily accept them when they grow up. They will understand it’s the best way of life.

10. Differentiate between halal and haram: You need to explain to a child what is permissible to them from Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) and what is forbidden. They need to know in terms of eating haram and halal, as well as actions that are halal or haram like free mixing etc.

11. Bedtime stories: This has been a very popular way of putting a child to sleep. You can read to them the dua’s of sleeping and the importance of it. Explain to them how the angels will protect them by reciting ayat ul kursi as prescribed by the Rasool of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He).

Something to keep you motivated through your journey of motherhood:

The Messenger ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) of Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) said “whoever takes care of two girls until they reach adulthood, He and I will come together on the day of resurrection and he interlaced his fingers.” (Meaning in paradise) [Al adab Al mufrad]

I as a mother have faced many challenges, and above are the things I felt worked for my children and made motherhood a little easier SubhaanAllah. Please share your own tips to help others in their motherhood journey!

 About the Author:

Sofia Nasir is a mother of three, alhumdulillah. She is a student of knowledge and looking into writing as a career.


25 thoughts on “How to Show Gratitude for the Blessing of Motherhood

  1. Subhan Allah, Motherhood is indeed a bliss..to be enjoyed and cherished every moment. I too learned this only after acquiring the knowledge of the Quran.
    May we all benefit from Elim.
    May Allah bless our parents with the best of Deen, Duniya and Akhirah. Ameen.
    “Rabbir hum huma kama rabayyani sagheera”.

  2. Masha Allah very good tips indeed. We must make a great deal of effort in all tips mentioned above. But the one we see too often and have much difficulty with is point 7. So very challenging to explain why we won’t buy these gadgets. We find that keeping them physically active is the best alternative. We participate along with them. It make for great family bonding and brings about all sorts of wonerful discussion topics. May Allah guide us all to be the best parents for our children and help us raise them God fearing and righteous. Barak Allahu feek

  3. Masha’Allah a good article but regarding point 10: differentiate between halal and haram. Now of course without any doubt this is important, but how about teaching young children who is Allah (SWT) – include the 99 beautiful names – Encourage them to understand what is the concept of God in Islam before anything else – this reinforces a good strong foundation. Secondly, in order for the child to appreciate what is halal, haram and why, it is equally important to encourage the child to actively develop a healthy relationship with Allah – from there and as the child matures into a teenager then a young man or woman, he/she will understand and apply these guidelines based on their individual conviction and knowledge of what they need to do a strong, confident, independent and practising muslims. A lecture related to this is by Amina Assilmi (May Allah have mercy upon her Soul) – available on youtube called: Getting to know Allah through Nature.

  4. aslamoalikum alhumdulilah it’s beautiful and almost covers everything that we usually do or miss in handling our children, the beautiful thing of this article that there are references from the life of our beloved prophet Mamauhammad (SAW).

    only one practical step i want to ask some children our bestowed with high intllegence mashallah and if we say to them straight away ” you are doing in this thing, ” and even they have good memory they reply ,”i’am wrong in everything o.k” then how to manage this, how to place this thing before them saying things you are doing are not appropriate simple things like learning swimming, focusing on the task doing.

    awaiting for your reply

    jazak Allah o kheir

    ume gul

    mum of one 5.10 year daughter in class 1 in public school Sydney Australia(told you her age and environment she’s coming from as i think it’ll help in replying accordingly..jazak Allah o kheir)

    1. By Positive encouragement. You daughter said the above sentence because she thinks she never did anything right,.. so my advice to you ( as I had the same issue with the same age of my daughter ) take a deep breath, do not react when she says so and calm yourself, now instead saying you are doing this WRONG…………..say, you are trying your best or excellent effort, or hmmmmm you did almost right , would you like me to help you etc,… again positive encouragement. Children make mistakes, sometimes they repeat mistakes, so be patient though I myself is not very good at it but I learned how to deal with my daughter who is 7 in Canada.
      Sometimes my daughter gets frustrated by doing something and then not only makes mistakes but also crosses the limit and values that we are trying to instill in her,…. again the same thing I will take a moment, will talk to her by starting all the GREAT and GOODS she has, once she starts feeling that mom is there to help then she focuses, and listens.Hope this tip will help inshaaAllah

  5. Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah, this article was a real inspiration first thing in the morning to me today!

    Thank you for sharing these tips – I have already forwarded these to the near and dear in my family…

  6. Subhanallah sister I am very impressed with this article may Allah reward you for the help you have given me. Sister can you please write an article regarding other aspects of parenthood as a whole inshallah look forward to reading it

  7. Jazak Allah Khair for sharing! On the notion of listening to Quran does anyone know of any children CDs that have children reciting Quran? When children hear other children it becomes more interesting for them….

  8. Asalaam alaykum, hope your all good inshaAllah. Firstly I would like to apologise for replying so late. Alhumdullilah I was away performing Umrah. SubhaanAllah that is the place to be. Jazak Allah Khair to all of you for taking time out to read my article, all benefits you recived are from Allah SWA and all mistakes mine alone.

  9. Asalaam Alaykum, hope your all good inshaAllah. Firstly I would like to apologise for replying so late. Alhumdullilah I was away performing my Umrah. SubhaanAllah that is the place to be. Jazaak Allahkhair to all of you for taking time out to read my article. All the benefits you received are from Allah SWA and all mistakes were mine alone.

  10. Hello Nice article .Unfortunately Allah did not bless me with such a Mother with such qualities especially when i needed them decades ago.
    I take my mother (still alive) as an Azmaish from Allah , he tries people in watever way he wants i suppose give and see take back and see , withold and see etc etc …
    I only pray for her and hope Allah keeps me safe at the end since there is no room for me to do anything but have patience , i only have patience for her since it is a Command Of Allah amd his Prophet not for anything else so basically my relationship is only for divine command ….

    But sometimes i am confused since in my entire life i have never seen her
    1) PRAY ( see does not know how)
    2) FAST
    3) READ QURAN( does not know how)
    4) hajj/umra etc
    5) zikar/tasbih
    6) showing gratitide to allah , just complaining
    bUSSS PRAY FOR ME that i come out sucessful in this trial
    Thanx

  11. Shukran may Allah SWT reward us parents in our effords and grant us to fullfill our duties towards our children in a way that onlly pleases Allah Insha-Allah. From your sister in Islam.Kashiefa

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