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  1. Jazakallah Kheyr Brother,

    What an amazing article MashAllah. These points really resonated with me. I look forward to applying these points in my own life and instilling these value in my children In Sha Allah. Looking forward to part 2!

  2. Jazakallahu khairan, may Allah reward each and everyone of you that contribute to the propagation and greatness of islam .may your sins be forgiven and forgotten on account of this . Keep up the good work

  3. Masha Allah the articles always give food for thought. As a Muslim who emigrated 38 years ago and chose to make America home I disagreed with the question ‘ should I go home? Posed in the beginning of the article. This is home and we have to be the best citizens as ordained by Allah.
    Respectfully stated.
    Thank you for all the good work .

  4. Jazakallah khair for initiating this series. It is so important to the parents, cos a child is either made or broken by the parents especially the mother. Hope and pray young parents would take heed of this series .

  5. So important, the utmost thing is that we should follow first what we want to see in our children, if not, then we are deceiving ourselves,

  6. Jazak Allah kheir. I found this very beneficial even as non married girl. The article bears within it very important beliefs in akida which I think we will always need to reconsider and establish

  7. The most important is the behavior or parents with each other. Sometimes parents are so practicing have beard wear hijab pray five times a day observe fasting but there relation with other ruin the personalities of children and then they blame each other. Parents need to understand that child start learning when s/he in the womb. They can listen feel observe things. And child’s personality is made up by the age of ten. We need to work on our kids during these years. While we wait for them to reach to their teen age and damage is done..

  8. ALHAMDULILLAH. So educative, my Allah SWT help us in our efforts to b good parents and bring up our children with little or no stress to b good muslim and may he reward u abundantly.

  9. JazakAllahu khayran for this wonderful post. I have been wondering how to guide my future family and this post just seems to provide the right foundation.

  10. Jazakalla khairan, an interesting article for everyone especially parents. This is what the Ummah needs. With some much parenting theories and tips around, as Muslims our best reference is the Holy Quran and the Sunnah. Looking forward to part 2. May the Almighty reward your entire team abundantly.

  11. Jazakallah Khair, This is a wonderful reminder and advice not only for parenting purpose but to us as individuals and parents to have these core values as mentioned (Confidence, responsibility and optimism). May Allah grant us these core values Ameen.

  12. JazakaAllah Khairan for these wonderful tips. I have a teenage son and everyday I wondered if am doing right by him. I tried not to be too “extreme ” with him but I just want him to love Islamic as much, if not more, than I do. Mon Sha Allah, I will endeavour to make use of the tips. Salam Aleykum.

    • Wa’alaykumussalaamu-Warahmatullahi-Wabarakaatuhu,

      I am a teenager myself and I thought maybe to just highlight some things my Mum does that really helps me out.
      My Mum always loves me, and that’s really the starting point because then everything She tells me I respect more than I would have (and need to do so more). And She calls me to come to her room after school to talk to her, and I talk to her for like 10 minutes everyday. And sometimes She would come downstairs and talk to my Brother. So that is what helps in my opinion; love and connection.
      Though, the problem many teenagers face may be Imaan in the mind; intellectual resolve on the Qur’aan and Islaam. So I would advise that, in these daily 10 minute conversations, maybe you could just quickly say something awesome you learnt about the Qur’aan (not long, but short but definitive; like a Scientific Miracle In Shaa Allah), but majority of the time I would advise to keep the conversation about School or Life so not to alienate the teenager IF s/he is not very outwardly Religious.

      In Shaa Allah this helps.


      * p.s. I believe you meant In Shaa Allah, and not ‘Mon Sha Allah’

  13. Thanks for all of your feedback and comments on the article. It is an art to learn our children’s personalities. All 4 of my kids have complete different personalities and it is an art that every parent has to learn on how to approach each child.

    The values mentioned in this article are important for all children but how you teach them to your children will depend on your child’s personality. You’ll never get to know your child’s personality unless you are spending time with them.

    It is a must, whether you are a father or a mother that you spend time every day with your children to get to know them so you can learn how to instill these values in your children; since all of them will be different (most likely!).

    If there is any advice you can share from your experience, please post it so we can all benefit.

    Haroon Malik

  14. What a thought-provoking and wonderful article that is so practical as well. You have made so many excellent points Brother Haroon. I will be working on implementing these into my children’s upbringing even more proactively inshallah.

    I found the point about seeking honor in Islam to be so important especially in today’s anti-islamic environment.

  15. Assalamalaikum, very true… You have highlighted the most important aspect of one’s well being as a human. I am eagerly waiting for the Part-2 of this article… jazak allah…

  16. JazakAllah khair for a great article. I was brought up in a religious household and Alhamdulillah, these values are exactly what my parents instilled in us from a very early age. As we grew up and mixed with our extended family members and community, Allah swt put it in their hearts to acknowledge my siblings and I as role models for their children. All is a blessing from Allah swt for He had blessed us with great parents who strives to sincerely instill good character in their children.

  17. Jaakumullahhu khayran for this beneficial article, especially for people like me that going to start my own family. InsyaAllah, hope good prayers from all =)

  18. Alhamdulilleh Im a revert of 10 years. I never knew having kids would be so hard. Subhanallah the responsibility is over whelming at times. I constantly pray my words and actions cause mine to grow steadfast to the deen.

    I pray for all your children to grow into strong and beneficial muslims for our ummah. Please dont forget us and our children in your duas.

    Please keep reminding us for reminders benefit the believers.
    Jazakum allahu khairun

  19. Maashaa Allah thabaarakAllah, very well written and a great eye opener. As a senior person i notice that many many young parents are sort of stranded in life, may Allah guide them and give them the hidaya, aameen! If only they would follow Productive Muslim, for sure they are going to get straightened. The one problem is many are not consistent in whatever they do, so sorry to see that. May Allah’s blessing be upon Productive Muslim and its team and grant them the baraqah in all their resources, aameen!

  20. This article will enable parents to raise a sound and firm believer. Ultimately, we need a generation that can bring change and add value to our society. JAZAKALLAH for sharing this !

  21. Jazakumullahu Khairan. So educative! May Allah سبحا نه وتعا لي grant us the ability to instil these values in our lives and that of our children.

  22. AssalamuAlaikum Ustadh Malik,
    Honestly, I feel much better when I came across this article. While experiencing my ups and downs with my self development and my goals, it gets challenging to keep up my positive thoughts and attitude. I’m ready to improve my mindset.
    Thanks for your generosity with this information J.A.K. May Allah grants you tawfeeq in dunya and akhirah.