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    • This is one of the best deeds, i.e reminding others. Human beings are subjected to forgetfulness, so with this write up masha’a Allaah, we now know what is expected of us as Muslims. May Allah SWT barakalize your efforts.

  1. MashaAllah such an imaan boosting message which lifted my spirit instantly:) JazakAllah khairan kaseeran. It has reminded me of how grateful I should be that I did Hajj two years ago and still the images and sounds are as fresh in my heart as if I had gone there yesterday!! We do say so much about what we experienced and collected in terms of good deeds but so few people actually plan to be extra productive as a sign of gratitude for this great blessing. May Allah guide us all to become the true reflection of Islam… ameen

  2. JazakAllah to you both for the kind words. I hope that this also serves as a frequent reminder that I myself need to follow these guidelines – because time really has eroded a lot of the ambition that I had…and it’s only been one year since I got back. And I know it’ll probably be the same for many of this year’s hujjaaj – which is why I felt it was so important to write this at this moment.

    JazakAllah to ProductiveMuslim for publishing it on such short notice.

  3. Its a fact that Allah made us all imperfect so that we support each other and be united as an Ummah. That is why these reminders from fellow Muslims move us so much. I have been writing for the past few years and have a blog to record my thoughts. You might read my story of Hajj… a journal of my inner experiences at the following link: May Allah benefit us from what we read and write… ameen
    http://theseekerspath.wordpress.com/2011/07/04/my-hajj-journal-the-complete-version/

  4. I just got back from hajj and I am kinda concerned. I did get the spiritual high you mention as I have longed for long years for this journey. My concern is that most of what I remember is the hardship as the experience was not easy. I learned a lot of lessons and hajj made me realize what worshiping really is. But I am worried since the experience was not as poetic as everyone says it is. Should I worry that my hajj may not have been accepted? Can I share with you one of my reflections for you to tell me if my hajj was ok? I feel that I need to talk to someone about this.. JAK

    • May Allah accept your Hajj and grant you every form of goodness going forward – and also take you again in future.

      Feel free to share the experience if you think it’ll help getting others’ perspectives. My immediate reaction is that you shouldn’t worry about it not being poetic etc. We don’t worship FEELINGS – we worship Allah. As long as you’re doing things right by Allah, that’s all you need and that’s success – even if it doesn’t FEEL ‘spiritual’ or amazing. Shaytaan can use tricks to lead us to innovations and paths that feel spiritual – but are far, far from acceptable in Islam (he’ll start small, and gradually move you further away). So be on guard and always keep true, authentic sunnah and Quran as your guide.

      The fact that it was difficult is a good sign – like you said, you learnt a lot. That is the way Allah wanted your Hajj to be – so don’t let your prior expectations cast doubt in your mind about whether it was accepted or not. Belive with yaqeen that Allah accepted it, and have full faith in Him and ask Him to help you drop these doubts.

      The ulama say that the sign of an accepted Hajj is that when you get back home, your life changes for the better. You yourself become better in Islam. Use that as your measuring device – not the question as to how poetic or spiritual it felt for you.

  5. Having just returned from Hajj, this was exactly the type of article I was looking for. Very very relevant and useful. Thank you for writing it and for PM for publishing it.

  6. ok,nice article,actually i have some questions,thats why i’m searching for,my mother-in-law is a housekeeper,she completed her hajj about 10 years ago,they was at KSA,now they are in BD,everytime she watching TV serials,newes,etc.She wake up from sleep 7am,she prays 4times daily,she is person of humanity.but i personaly dislike her this kind of bad habits,Is it her right way to keep hajj perfect???

  7. Obviously it’s not ideal to be watching TV a lot – unless it’s beneficial; and to only be making 4 salaahs a day (instead of 5). I think the best thing you can do is to look at the positives in her – that she’s ‘a person of humanity’, and that she’s making 4 salaahs daily, instead of many others who make less (or don’t even bother).

    Be patient, look for the positives in her, and try to encourage her, in a nice and gentle way, to gradually improve. Make it a point to encourage her to improve SLOWLY and CONSISTENTLY – because that’s a really solid way to approach things. It’s not good to just demand / ask for instant change, or a lot of change in a short space of time. Give her time.

    Most of all, YOU be a positive example to her and insha-Allah your good habits and actions will influence her more than words ever could.

    Hope this helps.

  8. Having just completed hajj, I am also concerned about my actions upon returning. I’ve maintained salat, started reading about Islam, and intend to read the full translation of the Quran. But I am still sinning with my eyes, I don’t immediately lower my gaze. Im ashamed to admit this but it’s true. Any advice?

  9. Mashallah very well written and points to keep fresh are taken into notice.. May Allah swt rewards the writer and publisher :) and invite them again and again to His swt home

  10. May Allah accept your Hajj and help you to live it. Apologies for this very late reply, but I hope it still reaches you.

    I think the fact that you are feeling shame is a good first step, so acknowledge that and be thankful that Allah is giving you those feelings.

    As for your eyes, please do try to apply the advice given – i.e. once you see something, look at something else to try to replace the visual. About the timing – i.e. you don’t “immediately” look away – I think the best starting points are intention (have a sincere intention to want to be quicker about looking away), dua (asking Allah to help you to overcome your weakness), and then your own effort. And even if you keep failing, just pick yourself up and try again.

  11. Don’t let shaytaan fool you into thinking that, because you’re ‘failing’, or because you can’t get this right, you might as well not try. He’ll try to trick you and cause you to despair – but you should never, ever despair in the mercy of Allah, and in the hope that Allah will be there for you…even if you can’t outwardly perceive it at the moment.

    If you feel your current approach is not working, try breaking it down into smaller, more gradual goals. Be small and consistent, because that’s a very effective way to change something. (Read more about that approach here: http://productivemuslim.com/can-patience-boost-productivity/ )

    May Allah help us all with our many weaknesses, accept our Hajjes, and help us to strive to live them until our dying days.

  12. Salam ;)
    Such amazing advise . . . It will be put into practice inshallah
    Inshallah my husband my son n i will be going hajj this year. .
    My son is 2in November. . . Has any1 experienced taking a baby?
    Does any1 have any advise? Also when in ihram is it essential for women to wear white?

    Lastly pls have us in ur duas i feel so unworthy of this n am grateful to Allah ;) pls pray r hajj gets excepted and Allah paak makes it easy 4us.
    Thnk u

  13. Walaikum salaam

    May Allah grant all of you a Hajj mabrur and maqbool. Savour every moment and from the moment you arrive, think about the moment you’ll be leaving. That will, insha-Allah, help you to appreciate where you are and just how limited the time is. This is the experience of a lifetime, and it will be best to gather as much goodness, and good memories, as you can – so that you have those treasures with you for the rest of your life after Hajj.

    You can find some of my Hajj prep notes, including an e-book, at:
    http://dreamlife.wordpress.com/2013/08/31/ready-for-hajj-series-part-1-madinah/

    • Oh, and no – it’s not essential for a woman to wear white. People do that out of tradition, but as long as you’re properly covered (which your Hajj guide will eb able to advise you on), you should be fine insha-Allah.

  14. Wow thank you
    Its a nerve wrecking process at mo till we know visas r done
    Then till we travel to airport then till we actually arrive there!!!!
    Im trying 2 controll getting over excited :)

  15. i performed hajj this year. It was the most amazing experience and the best journey in my life.
    Sure, I want to go once again and I am just praying the Almighty to invite me once again. Please make dua for me that I keep my spirituality to the highest for the rest of my life.

    • Ameen – for you and all who have been this year and in previous years. May Allah give us the toufique to strive hard to maintain our Hajj….especially when the feelings of spirituality fade back into the grind of daily routine.

  16. I went to Hajj. Two years ago. Completed everything I could possibly do. Spent sunrise to sunsets in the masjids praying and asking for guidance. 40 consecutive prayers for the prophet (PBUH) in medina. Prayed multiple times in ras-jannah, i even was blessed enough to kiss the sacred black stone just as the prophet (PBUH) did. Pretty much had the perfect Hajj. In time i gained more spiritual and no longer believe in the religion but have a deeper connection to the Creator, Allah. I no longer fear tremendously about God and walking on eggshells about my life.i cannot get Allah out of my head in any actions that i undertake, i have a deeper understanding. I love Allah more than i fear him, when before it was just fear. The religion is excellent, but at this point i no longer need to follow its detailed intructions about how to live and consequences that grips fear in the mind. God is love. I know you will disagree with what i now believe, but no matter. Allah has Writen it so. Most important, if you have the chance to go on vacation, go to Hajj instead. Assalamu Alaikum

  17. Asselaamoe aleikoem
    Shu kran for sharing such important information!I am still in my 40 days @wanted someone so to xplain all the special emotions one is xperecing.Also concerned to loose these special feelings!cause thre are so many challenges every day!ALLAH must protect@GUID us AMEEN!Can u kanala xplain what the 40 days are?Shukran-before we go on gadj,we learn about the gadj-the history-everything-but no one xplain how to handle emotions @situations when we return-shukran for understanding-MAY ALLAH reward you in ABUNDENCE IN SHA ALLAH AMEEN!

    • JazakAllah for the kind words – though I’m only seeing them a year later so I don’t know if you’ll see this. Anyway, the 40 day thing, I think, is just a popular myth – that a Hajji’s duas are accepted for 40 days after they return. I’ve not seen any authentic evidence to back it up, though I could be wrong.

      You’re right that the post-Hajj emotions are not often discussed, and it is a need – hence there used to be a course on this.

      I suspect you’re in Cape Town, so this course would be relevant to you. See the review here:
      https://dreamlife.wordpress.com/2012/03/17/for-the-rest-of-your-days/

      Sh. Riyadh is not around anymore, but they might be running the course again next year with someone else.

      • Jzk khair for this.. I just returned from hajj and am suffering from PhD ( post hajj depression).. everytime I remember it I can’t stop crying… its only been a week but I miss it sooo much… I miss the group and just everything…what can I do to ease the pain?

        • Unfortunately, it’s going to be that way….it was a different world; a different life. True freedom, in a sense – because we’re not chained to all the responsibilities of everyday life, but free to just pursue our real purpose in life directly – in ibadah.

          I think emotionally, it will be hard. But just use the emotion to constantly make sincere dua that Allah makes your experience a means of permanent, positive change…and that you can strive to live your Hajj until you meet Him.

          I think the pain, and the emotion and nostalgia, will probably fade over the coming weeks and months. You may get a revival at Hajj time next year and each subsequent Hajj period…but it generally fades over the years.

          So while it’s all fresh and new, use the momentum to take as much long-term positive as you can. Insha-Allah that will help turn the pain into productivity.

          May we all remain truly grateful for the Hajj we performed, and get the opportunities to return again and again.