[Productive Thinking Series – Part 4] Feel the Fear and Be Productive

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This is the fourth of a series of 7 articles on ‘Productive Thinking’. The series aims to address the challenges that Muslims face on many different levels when it comes to productivity. These levels include: the mental, emotional and physical levels. This series will tackle thinking and mindset on the mental level; negative emotions like anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, fear, etc., on the emotional level; and habits on the physical level. (Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 5 | Part 6 Part 7 |  Part 8)

This article covers the underlying fears that we have when it comes to taking action and being productive. I will also share practical strategies to deal with and overcome any fears.

A few of the main challenges when it comes to productivity are procrastination, being overwhelmed and self-sabotage. Most people try to learn new systems, tools and techniques to overcome these challenges without fully understanding the challenges. In the first article, we talked about the four dimensions that we live in, namely spiritual, mental, emotional and physical. Tools and techniques are important but if we don’t understand the unconscious fears that are triggering these fear responses, then we will not be as effective as we could be in doing our best to be productive.

So why are we talking about fear? It is because fear is the reason behind why we procrastinate and the underlying factor behind many things that we do to procrastinate. By understanding and having some awareness around what fear is and how fear gets to us, we’ll be more aware and better equipped to deal with any challenges. Awareness is the key. With awareness, change is possible.

The Nature of Fear

Most common fears that cause us to procrastinate are:

  • Fear of failure
  • Fear of rejection
  • Fear of loneliness
  • Fear of criticism
  • Fear of making a mistake
  • Fear of making the wrong decision
  • Fear of unworthiness
  • Fear of success
  • Fear of disappointment
  • Fear of the unknown
  • Fear of being uncomfortable

Three Universal Fears

All the above fears are rooted in the following three fears and they are the fear of:

  • Not being enough
  • Not being loved
  • Not belonging

As human beings, we all have these universal unconscious fears (we’re not talking about irrational fears, i.e. phobias, here).

For instance, if we take the most notorious fear — fear of public speaking — and analyse it, it is a combination of the following: the fear of appearing foolish in front of other people, the fear of not wanting to make a fool out of oneself and not wanting to make mistake. If I make a mistake, then I am stupid, not good enough, people are going to criticise me, they will know that I am a failure or a fraud, that I am not good enough and I will get rejected and will not be liked or loved! Of course, I am hugely generalising here but you get the point.

The fear of not being enough is also the fear behind thinking that we will not be able to handle anything that comes. So, we do not take enough risks and say yes to opportunities. Think back to your past about the many opportunities that knocked on your door. Think of the times that you said yes, opened the door and took them on. And then think of the times you did not answer the door and let the opportunities pass. It is all based on the fear of ‘What if I cannot handle it?’.

The truth is that we have been promised that we will not be tested with anything that we will not be able to handle. Anything that comes our way, we have the ability to handle, overcome and excel at.

“On no soul does God place a burden greater than it can bear.” [Qur’an, Chapter 2, Verse 286]

The challenge, then, lies in our thinking. Henry Ford said “Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.” This sounds cliche but this concept has been spiritually, scientifically and experimentally proven. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) says that, “I am as My servant thinks I am” [Hurairah]. You notice more of what you focus on.

Fear Is Healthy. And Unhealthy.

Fear prevents us from potentially life-threatening situations and doing things that will cause us physical harm. That is what the part of the brain called amygdala is responsible for. It is our body’s natural response to anything that could be potentially dangerous for us. It is a part of our Creator’s wisdom for protection from life.

When fear becomes unhealthy and dysfunctional, it keeps us in our comfort zone and prevents us from taking necessary actions to help us learn and grow to become better and bigger versions of ourselves.

“Fear is your best friend or your worst enemy. It’s like fire. If you can control it, it can cook for you; it can heat your house. If you can’t control it, it will burn everything around you and destroy you” said Mike Tyson.

Fear is an Impostor and a Liar

Fear promises that if we listen to fear and not do the things that we are fearful of, then we will not have to live in fear.

The fears that you do not face become your limitations. And soon, those limitations become your reality. And that is how the masses lead small lives. But you are different, aren’t you?

“Satan threatens you with poverty and enjoins you to be niggardly, and God promises you forgiveness from Himself and abundance; and God is Ample-giving, Knowing.” [Qur’an, Chapter 2, Verse 268]

Satan threatens you with poverty and the fear of inadequacy and doubts. Whenever you want to do something to become successful – physically healthy, emotionally more loving, open and generous, financially wealthy and abundant, spiritually aware, connected and closer to Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) – the whisper will come, “Don’t!. “You’re going to injure or hurt yourself!”, “What will people think of you?”, “What if they don’t love you back?”, “What if you fail?”, “What if blah blah blah blah blah!’. These whispers create doubt and fear, preventing you from taking action.

Satan wants you to play small, think small, be afraid of everything, lead small lives and be small people! 

But if you believe in the promise of our Creator, then what do you have to fear? He subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) promises you forgiveness and abundance. All you have to do is to consistently keep showing up and stepping up. It is uncomfortable, for sure. But that is the path to take if you want an awesome life here and Jannah in the next world. Your level of success, in this world and the next, is going to be directly proportional to the level of uncertainty and discomfort that you can ‘comfortably’ handle.

Think about the system that our Creator regimented and ritualised for us to make sure we get back to Him in peace, in one piece. Among other good stuffs, salah, zakat, fasting and Qiyam-ul-layl (not fard, but if you want to play a bigger game, this is not an option), none of them are comfortable to perform or do but isn’t that the whole point of it all?

Or are you going to listen to the empty promises of the fear monger? The one who is going to deceive you, double-cross you, dupe you, and cheat you out of your potential, your possibilities and the garden that Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) has promised you.

“And Satan will say when the matter has been concluded, “Indeed, God had promised you the promise of truth. And I promised you, but I betrayed you. But I had no authority over you except that I invited you, and you responded to me. So do not blame me; but blame yourselves.” [Qur’an, Chapter 14, Verse 22]

The Truth About Fear

Fear will never go away.

Many of us think that when we have the fear of doing something or taking certain risks, the natural thing to do is to wait for the fear to go away or avoid the things that we are fearful of, right?

Wrong!

The natural thing to do is to do the thing that we fear. Because, fear is saying “Do not go beyond this… it’ll be painful, it’ll feel uncomfortable, stay here and be safe, you will not be have to live in fear”. The truth is that fear will never go away.

Many people wait for confidence to show up before they take action. That is the flaw in reasoning. Confidence is not needed when you are waiting. Someone or something has to move first before confidence comes. That someone is you. Take the first step and then the second step and the fear will disappear.

Mike Tyson says, “I’m scared every time I go into the ring, but it’s how you handle it. What you have to do is plant your feet, bite down on your mouthpiece and say, ‘Let’s go.’”

The Consequences Of Fear

The more you wait and delay taking action because of the excuses of fear, the more difficult it becomes to do anything. You will eventually stop believing that you can and ever do anything. If you perpetually put things off and procrastinate, you will start feeling bad about yourself. Your self-image suffers and your self-esteem takes a hit.

A part of you dies just a little bit each and every time you put things off or break a promise to yourself. You will not necessarily feel it at the moment because you will be distracting yourself doing other things to make yourself feel good. That is the start of an addiction – addiction to food, comfort eating, gossip, TV, smoking, pornography, Youtube, Facebook and countless many other things to distract yourself from feeling the fear of not being enough, not being loved and not belonging.

With low self-esteem, it becomes even harder to get moving. Your life begins to shrink and you will feel stuck. That is the start of what many people call “depression”. From a behavioural standpoint, “depression” is just the illusion of lack of choice. It is because you have stopped making decisions and chosen to stay stagnant that you feel stuck. Please note that here we are not talking about clinical depression, for which professional help from licensed medical professionals are needed and must be sought.

The way you choose to feel stuck can come in many forms. Some people gather lots of information, buy books and do seminars gathering more info and then not implement what they learn. They get overwhelmed and stuck. Others run perfectionist strategies where the standard they set is so high that success is impossible.

So how can you overcome these challenges?

Practical Strategies to Overcoming Fear

1. Guidance prayer

Pray the divine guidance prayer (Istikhara) before you take any important action. That prayer is a great gift for us. Then, there is no regret because you know that if what you decided to work towards is good for you, despite the fears you might have, Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) made it happen for you. If not, move on to something else. Sometimes, what we think is “good” for us might not be so because we only see what is apparent while Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) knows what’s hidden.

Like He subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He) says, “… But perhaps you hate a thing and it is good for you; and perhaps you love a thing and it is bad for you. And Allah Knows, while you know not. [Qur’an: Chapter 2, Verse 216].

Trust in the wisdom of the Most Wise, the Best Disposer of all affairs. And be patient.

2. Check your intention

Whose pleasure are you trying to gain? Who are you trying to please?

Your concern should only be to please Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He). If the action that you are taking aligns with your highest purpose and your values and what you believe is ethical and ecological, and is good for you, good for others and good for the greater good, then there is no fear of what people are going to say.

People will say what they want to say based on their own limited experiences, limited view of the world, their own fears and insecurities. Stop caring about what people are going to say about you or what you do. What they think of you is none of your business. The truth of the matter is that there will always be a small group of people who will never like you or like what you do anyway. It’s not you. It is them. And you need to be okay with that.

3. Switch your focus

Are you focusing on yourself and making sure you look good? Then you will be fearful. If you focus on serving and make it about others, and appreciate and be grateful for the opportunity to serve and give, on whatever level that you are at, then you will have the courage to act. Stop making it about you. Make it about the people who can benefit from your action.

As narrated Abu Musa: The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) said, “A believer to another believer is like a building whose different parts enforce each other.” The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) then clasped his hands with the fingers interlaced. (At that time) the Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) was sitting and a man came and begged or asked for something. The Prophet ṣallallāhu 'alayhi wa sallam (peace and blessings of Allāh be upon him) faced us and said, “Help and recommend him and you will receive the reward for it, and Allah will bring about what He will through His Prophet’s tongue.” [Bukhari]

Here is my very personal example to make it really clear. I have this fear every time I write a new article, there is always this little voice in the back of my mind saying, “What if people find your articles useless?”, “What if they already know this?”, “What if it is not good enough?” and all these what if’s and the fears of not being enough. I have to switch my focus from making it about ‘me’, “What will they think of me?”, to make it about ‘you’, the reader, and revise and renew my intention that I am doing my best for my Creator to serve His creation. I tell myself every time that if this article serves one person, that is good enough for me. I will get it out and put it out there. And I know for a fact that every one has this fear in some capacity. Authors call it ‘writer’s block’, some people call it ‘resistance’. (Please see below for some brilliant resources from one of my favourite authors, Steven Pressfield, on overcoming ‘resistance’. It will give you another dimension of the so-called ‘procrastination’.)

4. Play above the line

Play above the line and come from a place of love and trust. Doubt and fear is below-the-line thinking. Allah subḥānahu wa ta'āla (glorified and exalted be He)’s promise is clear. Will you decide to trust? Be positive and optimistic. Hope for the best.

5. Focus on expanding your comfort zone

Know that everything that you want that you currently do not have is on the other side of fear, outside your comfort zone. You have to decide if you want to face your fear, grow and get what you want? Or you can choose to stay on this side of the fear and stay small.

Your challenges and your goals are by nature outside your current comfort zone. So by striving to overcome the challenges that you face or achieving the goals that you set, your comfort zone automatically expands – by that process, you become a ‘bigger’ person, you gain more confidence and you gain the ability to take on more responsibility. That is why the purpose of setting goals is not to achieve the goal but it is about who we become in the process of striving for the goal. That is the reward in itself.

Know that we get rewarded for our good intentions, the effort that we make and for striving to do what is best – the end result is a bonus. But the result in this world will not always be what we expect. That is why detachment from the result or the goal is important.

6. Be you

Envy is ignorance and imitation is suicide – Emerson

When you compare yourself to others and feel that you are not good enough and want to give up, you are just being ignorant of the fact that you have a unique journey that has led you to where you are today. And you will have a unique journey that will lead you, through your own set of challenges and tests, to make the contribution that only you can make to the people that you are meant to serve.

The person that you are comparing yourself to got there from his or her life experiences, their unique set of challenges that shaped them into the people who can serve the people that they were meant to serve. They can never be you and you can never be them. Be grateful for who you are.

And do not ever want to be someone else. Be the best version of you you can be. Be loyal to who you were meant to be.

7. Have the growth mindset

Separate your identity from your work. Your work can ‘fail’ but you are not a ‘failure’. Remember the difference between the fixed mindset and growth mindset (see Part 3).

There is no failure. There is only feedback. It is just what you make out of the events.

Did you get the outcome that you want? If the answer is no, then what do you need to change? Who can you talk to or ask for help? It is just feedback to you that you need to change your approach.

Do The Thing You Fear!

Bismillah! Make a decision and take the first step.

Decide!

Will you Forget Everything And Run?

Or

Will you Face Everything And Rise?

And are you Feeling Excited And Ready?

Do the thing you fear, and the death of fear is certain – Ralph Waldo Emerson

So we have covered the nature of fear, the consequences of fear and some practical strategies you can use to deal with and overcome fear. You can become productive by constantly making decisions and striving to take the next step, despite the fear. In the next article, we will learn about a model called ‘Four Levels of Behaviour’ that can be used to measure the effectiveness and productivity of the believers in their quest to becoming effective Productive Muslims, In sha Allah.

Please comment and share what has benefited you and what you now commit to doing as your first step towards overcoming fear and getting productive!

Read the other parts of this series: Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3 | Part 5 | Part 6 Part 7 |  Part 8

Resources

 

About the Author:

Thurein Win holds a Bachelor of Commerce specialising in Accounting and is a personal leadership and success coach, an NLP Master practitioner and an accredited Consultant and Trainer of Extended DISC (Behaviour Profiling). His vision is to empower Muslim organisations and professionals with cutting edge behaviour change technologies to serve the greater good of humanity. He is passionate about personal leadership, early childhood education and holistic health and healing. He is also working with communities in developing leadership programs for Muslim and non Muslim youths. He can be contacted via his website and Facebook. His latest endeavour is an online support community for productivity-focused Muslims who want to connect, share ideas and support one another on their journey of learning and growing.

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60 thoughts on “[Productive Thinking Series – Part 4] Feel the Fear and Be Productive

  1. JazakAllah khayr for this highly beneficial post.
    I am very much eager to read all your series in sha Allah and would be happy if you finish the series before January. The 1435 AH/ 2014 wIll be a wonderful year for me in sha Allah.

  2. s.a.
    thank you for this article. when i read this, it was like everything you wrote was about me.
    im going to try and force myself not to procrastinate anymore, inshallah.
    jazakallahu khair.

    1. w.s. bilo. Thank you for your feedback. It was about me and my journey as well :) I kind of suspect that most people can relate on many levels.
      Stay strong, be courageous and keep taking action. Awareness is very powerful and with awareness, any change is possible, bi’ithnillah. Wa iyakum.

  3. Aslm,

    Shukran for that, it was just what I needed, given my current situation. . Looking forward to your next post in-sha-Allah. May Allah reward you abundantly, ameen.

    Wslm

  4. JazaaKALLAHU bi khairaat,Thurein.It is an encouraging article which reminds us of what good qualities we Muslims are made of -faith, courage,perseverance etc . All the best qualities possible for a human being were in and manifested by our Beloved,The Prophet, Peace and blessings of ALLAH be upon Him. Let us resolve to learn more Him,emulate Him and ultimately succeed in both worlds. May ALLAH SubhanaHU wa Ta’ala enable to do that andprotect from the sneaking whisperers of humans and jinn . May HE also enable us to take full control of our emotions. I ask all these from HIM with all HIS Beautiful Names.

  5. The true medicine to all negative thoughts and emotions is in Suratul Mu’minoon verses 97 and 98.Pls refer. Read and Study The Holy Qur’aan,in it are answers.

  6. Mashaa Allah, such a motivating article. Really like the clear explanation, examples and tips. Plus learned something that I was not aware of about fears. JazakAllahu khair.
    what I am trying to do now is to change slowly as to not overwhelmed myself while I am just starting so for now, I am focusing on taking action and trying to stay positive and hopeful to beat procrastination and now that you have explained, fears underlying it. Look forward to the rest of the articles.

    1. Thank you, Nori, for your feedback. Now that you’re aware, change is very possible.
      Stephen Covey says that awareness builds its own momentum. Keep taking small consistent actions. Baby steps! Remember, that’s how babies learn how to walk :)
      Take it easy and take one step at a time :) Focus on what you can control, and aim for small wins everyday – set small but stretch goals everyday and aim to achieve them.
      Build your ‘success reference points’.
      Jazakallahu khairan.

  7. subhanallah. i just finished your article and I feel a new me already (although i still have to implement it). I have a tendency to put things off which I really need to do. Your article has really motivated me to face my fear and do it and RISE inshallah. jazakallahu khairan

  8. It took me two days to complete the article since it had so much to absorb. This article has affected me the most and made me determined to take steps forward to expand my comfort zone.

  9. Unbelievable . Makes me feel like you were speaking to me directly. Subhanallah I once heard that everything you hear or read. Allah intended for you to see or hear it. Jazakallah khairan . This is a lovely piece !!

    1. Wa iyakum, adbulrasheed. Thanks for your feedback. You can relate because it’s been my own journey and growth as well. And I you’re right, everything that we hear or see is by His permission and grace :)

  10. Subhanallah…very relevant article….I have many things in my mind to write down….but i am scared of people thinking that…how will they react….will my article will become a public topic ? and many more…As u have described may be writers block…

  11. :) Jazakallahu khair for your comment. Please go ahead and put it out there… like my mentor says.. what people think of you is none of your business… it’s theirs.
    Here’s a quote that I love from Rumi, “I want to sing like the birds sing, not worrying about who hears or what they think”.

  12. That was something i really needed … Thankx to Allah for making me read this … N thankx to u for overcoming ur fears n sharing such usefull guidelines with us…
    I feel Allah wants me to be strong n overcome my fears …
    Ive got many answers today …n i m positive of not getting upset with those things anymore … Working on what im supposed to do with the main aim of “seeking Allahs pleasure in everything ” … MashaaAllah , this has clarified my priorities n decision making … Helping me to be detatched from distractions…. I know patience would be required n it will take courage n time … But when i finally know tht i’m right … Its worth to wait n watch what Allah has planned for me …doing wht i’m suposed to do n leaving the rest to Almighty Allah … Who is indeed the best planner
    May Allah help me throught these most challenging days of my life… :'(

  13. Assalamu Alaikum!

    I came across this article randomly…and subhanallah this is EXACTLY what I needed! It’s so uplifting and it’s obvious that anyone can relate to it. I’m going to save it on my phone…so I can access it in times of need. May Allah (swt) reward you for your efforts!

    P.S. I don’t just like your article..I love it!

    1. Walaikum salam warahmatullah.
      If it’s exactly what you needed for this moment and what you’re experiencing, then it’s not ‘random’ at all :) There is no accident and everything happens for a reason… Allah SWT guided you to what you needed and I’m very grateful to be a part of that. Ameen to your dua’, sister.
      And I love that you love my article :D Please share it with your friends and family. Jazakallahu khairan.

  14. Alhamdulillah, jazakallahu khoiron katsiron brother :’)
    this article surely what I need right now
    there are so many fears I have that force me to stay in my comfort zone, until they makes me down and so unhappy
    May Allah gives us Rahmat in dunya and akhirat

  15. MashaAllah this article was amazing and so benefical, I took my time in reading it over a course of several days, pondered and took notes! JazakaAllahukhayrun brother Thurein, May Allah preserve you, increase you in sincerity and and enable you to do more good for the ummah, ameen!

    1. Thank you and Ameen, ummibrahim. Thank you for your comment. I love that you took notes – I’m sure you’ll ‘get’ it at a whole different level that people who didn’t. Kudos to the note takers ;) Thank you for your dua’ and may He reward you with the same and more. Amen.

  16. Jazakallah khairan! This article could not have have come to me at a better time. I’ve been struggling for some weeks now with uni work and postgrad applications, and i’ve just been putting it aside and doing everything but my work. I have all these things i want to achieve, i think its the fear of failure and dissapointing others that is slowing me down. Like you said, Allah does not give us more than we can handle. So i’m just going to take your advice, get out of my comfort zone and get on with it.
    Thank you so much again, and i pray Almighty Allah continues to guide you.

    1. Salam, Salmat. Wa iyakum and may He make easy and reward your actions. The only failure is the failure to take action and the failure to learn from your “failures”. Everything else is progress.
      One of my mentors says that if you want to be successful in the shortest amount of time, make as many mistakes* as you can in the shortest amount of time possible! Meaning, the more action you take, the more you’ll learn from what works and what doesn’t, the faster you’ll be where you want to be :)
      *different mistakes each time, of course! Otherwise, we’re not learning.

  17. Salam…this article is soooooo good MashALLAH tabarak ALLAH.
    Every tym I read one part I was hoping there would be more.
    Jazak ALLAH kheir

  18. SubhanAllah this article is the answer to my dua!!! I was supposed to continue my application process for graduate school a long time ago, and I couldn’t understand why I was drowned into procrastination. It made me sad because I knew I had to apply but I was just too lazy and afraid to continue my application.

    Now I understand the reason behind my behavior, and I thank ALLAH for guiding me to the light. Procrastination is evil indeed: It makes you believe that you are not good enough, it makes you doubt and it makes you depressed.

    Alhamdulillah, now I know that I can achieve a higher level in this dunya and insha Allah in the akhira by continuing my studies and growing as a person.

    Educated Muslim woman = good for herself = good for her entourage (husband, kids, family and friends) = good for the ummah = good for mankind :)

    THANK YOU! JAZAKALLAHU AL JANNATUL FIRDAUS :D

    1. MashaAllah, sister. Allah is the most merciful and generous. I thank you for sharing what you’ve been through. I know there are many people here who have been through the same and will resonate a lot with your experience. :) Jazakalluh khair.
      Awareness is very powerful and the first step to change and growth. I really love the way you describe about yourself at the end there :) Amazing and inspirational!
      We really need more sisters like you who aim high, rise above mediocrity and status quo and strive to become bigger and better versions of themselves so that they can serve the ummah and mankind. May Allah, the Most Generous, make all your dreams come true. Ameen.

  19. Asalamu aleykum brother, JazzakAllahu khairan for this article. Word can not express how much I needed to hear this. I suffer from anxiety, which is fear of the unknown for nearly year. My thoughts have suppressed me from a fear of going outside by self to staying home alone.

    I really didn’t know how to deal with my thoughts , which affects my daily life. My mind would causes my body to react with my negative thoughts. But I have to realise this and almost forcing myself to do my challenges, even though its difficult, however when I acommplish something I feel great. Even If I went outside by self. Alhamdulilah

    in a space of a year, my fear made me loose track myself and every aspect of my life. All I saw was my fears and all I became was my fears. I could bear everything except my salah, because I grew up worshipping Allah swt I couldn’t sacrifice that because it is the most important part of my life. So I would pray in fear and negative thoughts racing through my mind or I would even cry while praying of making du’a. Alhamdulilah I keep struggling my salah until this day. I can never loose it to a fear lower than fear of Allah swt. Salah became my light in the empty dark tunnel of my life.

    May Allah swt reward greatly with good brother. Ameen your article has also made me realise I will have to face all my fears without delaying everything in my life. I missed alot of opportunities because of doubting my abilities because of my anxiety. Inshaa Allah brother keep writing your wonderful articles you truly don’t know who article may help and assist. InshaaAllah.

    1. Walaikum salam wa iyakum, sue. Thank you so much for your comment and sharing your experience. I’m, and I’m sure we all are, deeply honoured by the fact that despite all the fears you had, you are courageous enough to be vulnerable and shared your personal challenges.
      May Allah reward you and help you overcome your fears to be the person that you know you could be. Ameen.
      Keep facing your fear. And let me know if there’s anyway I can support you. :)
      You inspire me, sue!

  20. Assalamu’alaykum
    Subhanallah:””)
    this amazing post has made me so… speechless..
    BarakAllahu fik…jazaakumullah for every message and knowledge :)
    bismillah, i will always try to face my fear and keep this precious message in my heart :)

    1. Walaikum salam salma, thank you for your comment and kind words.
      Wa iyakum. All praise is due to our Creator, the most high.
      Please share this message and awareness that you’ve gained with those that you love and want to inspire.
      Just do that… keep facing your fears :)
      Peace,
      Thurein

  21. Thank you so much for this artical. It made so much things clear for me and mede me understand mine behavior becouse of the fear. You are an amazing writher Ma shaa Allah. Again, thank you so much for sharing your wisdome with us.

  22. I know I am coming it late. Thanks Brother Thurein for the inspiring article. I can easily relate with many life situations relating to how fear impairs our ability to think and act. I agree about the baby steps and it is journey. With prayers and resolve we will InshaAllah overcome

  23. JazakAllah khair for this articles, it clarifies many things.

    What if one fear Allah swt, and that he abandons you ?
    Sometimes i think of any uncomfortable experience as a punishment from Allah.

    one more question how to easily come with self-forgiveness and trust in Allah mercy,
    especially in situations of Ibtilaa.

  24. I am a Christian but this article is helpful to all of any faith. I had searched for articles on how to turn fear into victory. This was the only one that helped or did not try to sell me a book. Thank you and God’s blessings upon you.

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