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  1. Assalamun alaykum,

    Jazakallhi khayran for this article, it contains many good points. I’m amazed at how many adults “play” games on the way to work, on the bus or train. We must be aware that anything that takes us away from remembrance of Allah (SWT) could be a step to weakening our faith, so we, as adults,should set an example. We must use all technology to increase our knowledge of Allah (SWT) and knowledge of our religion.

    • Wasalam,
      I agree adults do need to set an example, it’s easy to spend a lot of time on games inshallah here’s a lovely hadith which I think we should all reflect on.
      The Prophet (saw) advised to: “Take benefit of five before five:

      Your youth before your old age,

      your health before your sickness,

      your wealth before your poverty,

      your free time before you are preoccupied,

      and your life before your death”

      (Narrated by Ibn Abbas and reported by Al Hakim)

    • JazakAllah.
      Such a good article
      Masha Allah.
      Its ahard truth of today world.and parenthood comeswith a great responsibility.and in todays world its challengin. that how to makekids aware of these pros n cons.
      All That said in the. Article isa must to try.Allah has blessed me a son and sumtyms the challenge of fis modern technical world disturbs me.inshaAllah I will apply thesetips in future.
      Good wishes from all the members of this discussion board.

  2. Assalaamu Alaikum……it is really useful….Masha Allah….but I would like to add something more to that…..we can have deals with the children that if they do what we want…..They will get what they want……for an example, we can tell them to do their homework before watching T.V. or if play if they want to…….

  3. Wasalam Asma,
    I think thats a very sensible way to motivate kids to do their chores or homework, I do it all the time with my kids. Jzk for sharing!

  4. Good article…I have a question.. I m muslim..No doubt Islam is a great religion but practicing islam is very tough and hard.. Sometimes,I don’t know how to get engaged with Islam..my emaan falls very down often and rises off and on..and when my imaan falls down I feel very disappointed and I get bored with every thing..even with my Islamic lectures in my PC..and i feel that life is meaningless ..it has no mean ..how can I overcome thz prblm..plzz publish an article on this..

  5. AoA

    Agree with points 1-6. Very good practical points actually. Thanks.

    After that the article goes downhill unfortunately.

    Re: Play games with them
    As a young working parent, often by the time I get home, its close to maghrib time and I dont want to take my kids out to play games. I think its perfectly natural and safe for us to play on playstation in the safety of our house. Especially those games where parents and kids can play together. Why not?

    Re: Practice what you preach
    Not really, lot of us have got our own interests, hobbies etc that we like to read about – on ipad, smartphone etc. Just because I am a parent doesnt mean I can no longer have a life and pursue my interests.
    So whilst yes its important to do things together with my kids, please dont make the parents feel guilty in following their own passions sometime (within reason of course).

    Re: Provide alternatives
    Really? Where did you get these alternatives from? Perhaps early 19th Century! Guess what technology is here, and its here to stay. Just like you said in the earlier part of your article, the pros are there and they far outweigh the cons. And your alternatives are so lame. Here is why:

    Going swimming or out for a walk or bike ride – most swimming pools are closed for kids in the evening. Walk or bike ride around or after maghrib, yeah right!
    Easy cooking like making biscuits, fruit salad, or smoothies. – as a one off maybe, but my kids hated it after few times – so not a sustainable alternative. Not to mention that we needed professional cleaner to sort out the mess.
    Going to the library and choosing books to share such as recipe books, activity books, art and crafts. – libraries are closed well before maghrib – good idea on one day a week say on a weekend, otherwise this does not work.
    Using the library books to plan a meal, plan a project, plan a picnic to the park, get the kids to help you prepare the food – we do that all the time – this activity now take about 5-10 min a day. I think we use technology for a better long time.
    Organizing a fancy dress party; all the costumes can be homemade – been there done that, have good fun – but after a few times it gets very boring (my kids words not mine)

    Teaching them a skill: knitting, sewing, gardening. This will really consume a lot of their time healthily. – Good idea in theory. but really kids dont do things they dont enjoy. Outside technology, my kids love musical instruments, karoake and creative arts. But guess what they prefer to play piano on their ipad rather than the actual piano I have bought them.

    Rewarding them with gifts! Children love gifts. Challenge your children to not touch their gadgets except for a specific amount of time and see to it that they use their time efficiently, thereby rewarding them with prizes! – Good idea – most of us already do that, thanks none the less.

    I would really love to hear practical interesting alternatives to technology that can be SUSTAINTABLE. When you find one please do let me know.

    • Assalamu Alaikum wr wb bro, Since you’re the only working-dad in the world, no option is feasible, so just leave your children with the gadgets and stay at peace “after maghrib”. That is what the leftover time and weekends are for!
      May Allah broaden our thinking, Aameen

  6. very good tip masha allah, may Allah reward our dear farhat. May HE make it easy for us to direct our children to the true way of islam

  7. Masha Allah, inspirational and do-able….May Allah (SWT) give us the ability to give our children the best of the best…. Ameen!
    Jazakillah khairan

  8. Our children today are not that easy to educate and train. But we must not forget and put aside the power of DUAs to Allah to help our children to become strong Muslim followers, not to fall in the snares of shaytaan, our cursed enemy. and to keep in mind that obeying the parents next after Allah is an order that benefits them.

    • Ameen to everything you have written, doing dua to Allah for his help in guiding and protecting our kids is essential. Jzk for your wise words.

  9. Barakallh.. Really it is a situational article which carry valuable points. In this hactic world most parents are being careless with their kids while they access to internet. Young Minds are enriched with violence and porn due to careless of parents. Hope this article will give good awareness among parents and help them to guide their kids tactfully.

  10. Inshallah I do hope the article helps us all stop and take some time to reflect on our own and our kids use of the internet. We can all make changes to our lifestyle, it will be difficult but as parents we need to stick to our Islamic principles as well as explaining the reasons, kindly to our kids.

  11. Salam, Alhamdulilah! Jazak Allahu Khair for sharing such wonderful tips! My daughter and my younger sister are always addicted to games. Alhamdulilah I said this to them and for the last few days they havent really been playing games. Shukran Jazeelan!!!!

  12. salam alehikun ,
    I was in mood when I read through this article .may Allah continue to assist u inshaallah

  13. asalamualaikum,
    It was a wonderful article and invariably relevant too.i face the same problem for my young one being a working mother.its a difficult task to do and will take its own time for the transition, especially in a fussy eater to fill his stomach we may provide them with gadgets which is not right anyway.Insha allah we have to do dua for them sincerely and try our best within our limits of work..Hope the change will happen..jazakallah khairan for the advice

  14. Wasalam, It’s not easy being a working mum, in essence your’e doing two jobs! Inshallah may Allah (swt) reward you for all the work you do. Inshallah with Allah’s help, overtime the change will happen, it took me a good few months to ‘wean’ my kids off their gadgets. I now just don’t buy them any new mobile devices and I’ve become immune to pester power!

  15. Assalaamu-alaikum

    As mentioned by another sister, a powerful resource that we parents have is Dua. Below is an inspiring Dua that was forwarded to me:

    In the name of Allah, the most Beneficent, the most Merciful

    All praises are for Allah SWT, the most Compassionate, the most Forgiving.

    Salutations and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad SAW, his family and companions.

    Oh Allah, I submit myself to you.

    I realise that parenting a child is a very difficult task and I turn to You in humility for Your help.

    I implore you for Your wisdom and guidance.

    Oh Allah, I know that our children are an amanaat from You, to care for and raise.

    Help me do that in the best way.

    Teach me how to love in a way that You would have me love.

    Help me where I need to be healed, improved, natured and made whole.

    Help me walk in righteousness, and integrity, so that you may always be pleased with me.

    Allow me to be a God fearing role model with all the communication, teaching and nurturing skills that I may need.

    Oh Allah, you know what our children need. Help and guide us in praying for our children.

    Oh Allah, put a hedge of safety around our children. Protect their bodies, minds and emotions from any kind of evil and harm.

    Oh Allah, I pray that You protect them from accidents, diseases, injuries and any other physical, mental or emotional afflictions and abuse.

    Oh Allah, I pray that you keep our children free from any addictions and vices.

    Draw them close to You for protection from every ill and evil influence of our society, whether it’s apparent to us or not.

    Oh Allah, grant our children hidayaah and a heart that loves to obey You.

    Shine Your light on any secret or unseen rebellion in their hearts and destroy it before it takes root.

    Oh Allah, guide them away from any pride, selfishness, jealousy, hypocrisy, malice and greed and make them uncomfortable with sins.

    Penetrate their hearts with Your love today and always …

    Oh Allah make apparent to them the truth in any situation and let them not be misled by falsehood.

    Oh Allah, grant our children the ability to make clear decisions and let them always be attracted to good things that are pure, noble, true and just.

    Oh Allah, guide them in making choices that please You.

    Oh Allah, help them to taste the sweetness of walking with a humble spirit in obedience and submission to You.

    Oh Allah grant them the wisdom to choose their words carefully and bless them with a generous and caring spirit.

    Oh Allah, I pray that they never stray from the path of deen and that You give them a future filled with Your best promises.

    Oh Allah, always keep our children cleansed and pure from evil and shaytaan.

    Oh Allah, keep them steadfast in establishing Salaah and help them revere the Glorious Quran as Your Word and Law and to read it with understanding daily. Let it be their source of light and guidance.

    Oh Allah, let our daughters love wearing hijab and our sons the dress of a humble Muslim.

    Let their dress be a representation of their Imaan and of their love and respect for Your commands.

    Lead them to a position where they rely truly on Your power alone and fear You in the open and in secret.

    Oh Allah, make them so strong in their deen that they never encounter doubt.

    Oh Allah, do not allow any negative attitudes in the place of our children’s lives.

    Oh Allah, guide our children in honouring and obeying You, Your Rasool SAW and us as parents.

    Make them the coolness of our eyes.

    Oh Allah, fill our children with compassion and caring that will overflow to each member of our family.

    Oh Allah, grant them piety. Help them love, value and appreciate and respect one another with good communication between them always.

    Oh Allah, drive out any division between our children and bring them healing.

    I pray there be no strain, breach, misunderstanding, arguing, fighting or severing of ties..

    Oh Allah, I pray for a close, loving, happy and fulfilling relationship with them for all the days of our lives.

    آمِيْن يَارَبَّ الْعَالَمِينْ

  16. It’s always refreshing to read such amazing articles by ProductiveMuslim. Even though I admit I don’t read many articles often enough but yes every once in a while when I do I benefit each time.
    JazakAllahu Khairan kaseera’!

  17. Alhamdulilaah the article was really beneficial to me and my family and I will in sha Allah add them to what am doing with them at home may Allah guide us all right and make successful parents and may Allah increase the writer in knowledge ameen.

  18. Jazakallaahukayran for sharing this article.i really needed something like this.as i was telling my younger cousin not to play game on the moms phone he never really listen bcoz he thot i was lying.but now i found a proof to show him!shukran!

  19. Jazakallahukhairand. We need artickes like these. We gifted our two sons an ipad each a few years ago and I noticed our mistake. They stopped sitting with us. Stopped playing football, socializing with neighbours. Even their grades and prayers were affected. We sat down with hem one dayand hada talk with them. We explained the problems and they agreed to stop. We bought them art stuff books and lego. They were happy. They started playing football again. We sit together as a family everyday and read together and discuss our day and plan the next together. We setup the home pc with time restrictions to make projects or play games. We can easily see what the kids are watching from a distance. They sleep early then we parents have our own reading time or whatever. May Allah guide us and help us fulfill the responsibilities of these kids.
    Rabbana hab lana min ajwajina wa zurriyyatina qurratu aa’yun waja’lna mim muttaqina imaama

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