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  1. It is nice to see such a beautiful article on such a effective subject alhumdulilah. In ISLAM for every step of life we easily have to follow our beloved prophet saw atlast I appreciate for a kind reminder

  2. This is a rewarding message and reminder. It may makes me happy to know that am already always put to practice some of the Sunnah, while I will strive to adopt others. Jazakahllah Khair to the author and the channel.

  3. Assalamalaikum wa rahmatullah wa barakatuh,

    It is such a joy to read this article. You tend to forget these little things when you communicate with people from different walks of life and then tend to wonder, ‘Why cant I get through to them?’. Thank you dear sister, for a wonderful and concise reminder!

    JazakAllah Khair!!

  4. Assalamu aleikum warahmatulaahi wbarkaatuhu, thank you very much for this article, i have a problem communicating with people, i am afraid to offend someone or people not understanding me, the moment i try to go to any gathering i see people talking and understanding each other but no one understands so i rarely meet people and that is hurting me, i used to live in a house full of people but i am in a different country, a mother of four little children i have 3 friends my mother and my two uncles and they are all overseas. is there anything that could help me.

    • Assalamualaykum sister Fadumo,

      Where in the world are you living? there is help according to where you live inshallah. what sort of prpblems do you face whilst communicating?

      there is an online sisters halaqa site called http://www.habibihalaqas.org/ that you can join. perhaps there are some halaqas you could join in your area? WHen i was isolated and had problems communicating with people, i first joined a nice weekly halaqa that was family friendly, moms and dads and kids with a potluck, we woudl share and have kids playing running around between the moms and dad’s rooms. helped me a lot. alhmadulillah. the sisters were very forgiving and overlooked many mistakes i made and made me feel welcome.

      • I live in USA, the problems i face is that people don’t understand me and i don’t understand them, but these days, i am actually trying to just sit with people if i don`t understand them i will ask them again. i don’t know but i am not like a lot of people i met, but alhamdulilaah i am meeting sisters these days. i know habibhalaqas,i used to read their short stories and articles but didn know what else they had, inshaa`alaah i will check them again.

    • Self-esteem answers the question, “How do I feel about who I am?” We learn
      self-esteem in our family of origin; we do not inherit it.
      Global self-esteem (about “who we are”) is normally constant. Situational self-
      esteem (about what we do) fluctuates, depending on circumstances, roles, and
      events. Situational self-esteem can be high at one moment (e.g., at work) and
      low the next (e.g., at home).
      Low self-esteem is a negative evaluation of oneself. This type of evaluation
      usually occurs when some circumstance we encounter in our life touches on our
      sensitivities. We personalize the incident and experience physical, emotional, and
      cognitive arousal. This is so alarming and confusing that we respond by acting in
      a self-defeating or self-destructive manner. When that happens, our actions tend
      to be automatic and impulse-driven; we feel upset or emotionally blocked; our
      thinking narrows; our self-care deteriorates; we lose our sense of self; we focus
      on being in control and become self-absorbed.

    • To Fadumo:

      Assalamu Alaikom wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

      In terms of spiritual advice, I recommend this:

      1) Make duaa to Allah swt to improve your social speaking skills. Duaa can be made for anything as long as it is halal and realistic, so do not underestimate the power of Duaa, and use this as an opportunity to even get closer to Allah swt. Make sure you take advantage of the recommended times to make duaa.

      2) Make duaa to Allah to provide you with good friends and company.

      3) When meeting people, always mention the duaa that Musa (pbuh) said in verses 25-28 in surat Taha.

      4) Make sure you always read your morning and evening adhkar.

      In terms of practical advice, I recommend:

      1) Put yourself in situations where you interact with people more so you can practice after you make your duaas. Have tawakul on Allah, ask Him for success, and go for it!

      2) Read or listen to self-help books concerning the matter.

      3) Ask your close friends and family to give you advice concerning what you need to improve in terms of your skills. Ask someone who you know loves you and won’t hurt your feelings.

      I ask Allah to make things easy for you and bless you the good company that you hope for.

      Wassalamu alaikom wa rahmatullahi wa baraktuh

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    • Waalaykumus salaam warahmatul laahi wabarakaatuh.

      Pour your heart out to Allaah and make duaa for it truly can move mountains.

      You could try talking to yourself in front of a mirror to see what your problem spots are. You will be able to view yourself the way the others do.

      Don’t give up mingling with people. Connect with a few sisters in town and then gradually build your connections from there. Start talking about everyday issues like the weather, kids, etc. until you become natural at it. After a few, simple, smooth meetings, your confidence with rise and you will be able handle more, in shaa Allaah.

      When you do talk to people, look at them and know that they too are slaves of Allaah. This will make you feel confident.

      You say this is hurting you. If you feel sad for more than a day or two, I suggest you talk it out to a professional therapist who will be able to hear you out and give you suggestions best suited to the kind of person you are and the situation you are in.

      Also, you say you have three friends. I would like to remind you that each and every Muslimah around the globe is your sister and friend.

      This too was communication and I had no problem understanding you. You are already doing great! :)

      Wassalaamu alaykum warahmatul laahi wabarakaatuh.

  5. As-salaam alaykum warahmatul laahi wa barakaatuh. Alhamdulillah…..jazakallahu khairan for this beautiful piece. I can testify to the power of smiling at people, it goes a long way. …..it warms their heart towards you. Definitely in the prophet Muhammad (saw) is the best example.

  6. Asalam u alaikum wa rehmatullahi wabarakatahu sis <3
    a great reminder indeed !!
    smtimes we forget these very basic etiquettes.

  7. السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَ بَرَكَاتُه. Jazakumullah khayran. Thank you very much for another educative post. It’s a welcome reminder, for as human we are always in need of constant reminder of our basic etiquuettes and duties as Muslims.

  8. Asalamu alaikum

    When communicating with the opposite gender where should we have our gaze on. If that can be clarified that would be grate.

    Jzk Allah Khiaren

  9. As Salaamu Alaikum,
    Shukran Jazakullah Khair, this was a great article. It is a remembrance for all of us to abide the etiquets of Islam and to keep us free of fitnah. May Allah reward you for sharing this information with us, Ameen.

  10. Masha Allah! may Allah give us the ability to inculcate these etiquettes in our lives. Jazakumulahu khairan.

  11. Alhamdulillahi Katheeran, this is quite an intresting and educative piece, and Jazakumullahu khayr, really you have tried and succeeded in changing the livse of many people including I. You deserve a Job welldone.

    • Waeeyaak. Jazaakil laahu khayraa for your kind comment. :) My Content Coordinator was really helpful.

  12. We need more sunnah in our lives and alhamdulillaah, this is an awesome reminder! What an excellent example our prophet was (Peace and blessings be upon him). JAZAAKILLAAH KHAIR FOR SHARING SIS HIRA!

  13. I mean Sister Noorul sorry! Jazaakillaah Khair!
    Loool, I was reading sister Hira’s comment and thats why her name was in my head,
    But may Allah still reward u all my dear sisters! Allaahumma aameen!

  14. Assalaamu Alaikum and JazaakAllah Khair for the very beautiful summarized reminder. May Allah SWT accept your Sadaqah Jaariyah and reward you immensely. Ameen. May Allah SWT give all of us the tawfeeq to follow the Sunnah in our lives. Ameen.

  15. Nothing to comment, I give it 5 stars. Just want to request for a permission to use it in forums and lectures for the purpose of spreading Islam

  16. Assalamu Allaikum,
    what a very good reminder which enhances good reletionship of muslims and Islam as a complete way of life. It realy added to my productivity. Jazakallahu khair jazah.

  17. Wa Alaikum Assalam Wa Rahamatullahi Wa Barakatahu, Alhamdulillah the tips are well presented, needs to put into practice in full.

  18. This is a most valuable article firstly and mainly focusing the attention of our Prophet (Sal:Al),s Sunnah and those who follow will never go wrong and on the other hand they will highly rewarded by Almighty Allah. By the days are moving those who put into action these points will earn the respect and dignity from others. So why not we start right now

    • Good point! We could do well to add these to our Productive Muslim Habitator so that we can keep track of what we have accomplished within ourselves.

  19. its such a nice article which by the will of Allah if implemented, then this earth would be a good place to live in.

  20. Very nice article sister.
    Wish I could also know , how to communicate with non – mahrams when it comes to our profession side.
    Jazakallah khair.

  21. very useful article, dear sis, jazakillah khair :) this will be very useful for me, i can do this as a muzakara for the sisters of my movement, when i meet them next time, insha allah.

  22. Another important thing, try to avoid speaking just for speaking or to show that you know. Only speak if you think you will be helpful to others..
    Thank you for these recalls!

  23. A very useful article.I shall apply in my practical life ,and I will teach this to my family,and I shall contribute to my friends.Thanks for this useful efforts.

  24. As salaamu alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu
    Jazak Allah khair for sharing this wonderful message and reminder May Allah reward you abundantly and strengthen and increase us all in knowledge and understanding. Ameen

  25. Salam from the UK.

    Nice article. I often have trouble communicating well with others so InshaAllah I can put these tips into practise. May Allah reward your efforts.

    ~Akib

  26. Salamu alaikoum,

    For those who live in non-muslim countries like me, I miss serious talks about real issues and the effects of wearing a Sunnah beard and not shaking hands with opposite gender on communications and job opportunities with non-muslims companies and people…

  27. Dear Brother,
    Assalamu alaikum.

    Some Islamic Scholors say it is forbidden to greet non Muslims with Assalaamu alaikum.

    Please reply
    Sagid.

  28. Assalamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuhu. Beautiful and very pragmatic article, may Allah bless you. I am from the US and I was wondering what your thoughts would be on incorporating some of the sunan you mentioned above in the corporate wold, as an example, here in the West. Upholding the sunnah as much one can without being doing things that are against company norms/standards. JazakumAllahu khair.

  29. Jazakillahu khairan sister,

    These were some really great tips. All the points listed are so important. I especially like points 5 and 6. Point 6 is very much needed now a days, and is one quality missing with our young unfortunately. Not everyone should be spoken to in the same way. Even their background and interests should be considered.

    Point 5 truly creates harmony and a closeness between two strangers. I became really close with a colleague one semester and after she told me that she really appreciated that when I first met her I would not ask general how are you questions, I’d ask her specifically about her daughter or about the problem she was experiencing at that time. I realized then the importance of making people feel important by listening to them and inquiring about personal details they disclosed to you.

    Thanks for sharing.

  30. Esselamu alejkum,
    Try listening to others, people love when they know that other side is paying attention to their words :) do not interrupt other side while communicating.

  31. very inspiring MashAllah, jazakAllah. but one question: for writing with BismAllah… on the beginning of our writing is that even if writing to non Muslims? I want to implement that but I don’t know if it will cause confusion to non Muslims.

  32. Allahumma Baarik Alayha. Masha’Allah. May Allah reward you for this wonderful article. Keep writing. We would love to hear more from you. Enlighten us with more useful articles like this one. Jazaaki Allahu khairan.

  33. Alhamdulillah for this nice piece. The importance of effective communication can never be over emphasized in Islam. It is a centre point around which our religion is built.

    All aspects of Ibadaat and Muammalaat all require good communication.

    This is a requirement in relating with our neighbours, business associates and more inportantly our creator, Allah.

  34. :) Assalam Alaikum. Jazaakallah Khair for this beautiful Article sister. May Allah bless you in this world and in the hereafter. :) Assalam Alaikum.

  35. Alhamdulillah! The applications of this tips in one’s routins activities will make an individual to regain respect.

  36. Salam alikoum

    JazakAllah for this great article. I really enjoy reading your tips base on the perfect behaviour of our blessing prophet.

    I am french and i could say that we have lot of To learn from you..

    May Allah increase your knowledge

    Mohamed

  37. Assalam alaikum.
    Jazakallah khairan dear sister ur article was really a God send as I needed information about the way our prophet saw taught for a teacher’s workshop I’m participating in. I hope u dnt mind if I copy ur points and use them verbatim in my lecture. May Allah swt give u immense reward for ur efforts.
    Jazakallah khairan once again

  38. Jazak Allah, May Allah showers his blessing on you for your sharing of knowledge of Islam. Our Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wa’alhi Wasallam is the best character for us.

  39. Assalamualikum wa rahmatu’LLAH
    jazzakum’Allahu khaira – I searched this topic cos of some experienced in a conversation in skype. AlhamduliLLAH I found this beneficial. I would like to share with you what was my experience. Also I would like to be informed how we can be a part of this forum to start writings. Jazzakum’Allahu khairan ~

  40. JazakAllahu khair sisters and brothers in Islam at Productive Muslim network for sharing your many wonderful tips and important lessons worth sharing :) May Allah the Almighty forgive all our wrongdoings and accept all our good deeds. Ameen.

    Wasalaam from the Philippines :)

  41. Asalamualaikum…
    I have a confusion that should we shake hands while leaving or not.if so please give me a deep clearification on it with reference .Jazaqilla….