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  1. Alhamdullallah and Jazakallah Khayr for the truly wondrous advice for Parents.We do lead by example and by following the Quran and the Sunnah this should empower us to do it as right as we can.

  2. Masha’Allah.. Good article with many Qur’an ayats. My question to you: How do we treat parents who are not Muslim and have betrayed during childhood with abandonment through divorce and sexual abuse through remarriage? Both parents still alive one semi accepting conversion of daughter, the other parent rejecting and essentially disowning. Much disrespect from both non Muslim parents. Still doing/saying things that seem like betrayal.

    • Assalam alai kum Sister Lara,

      the answer to your question is right there in the Quran.

      “And lower to them the wing of humility out of mercy and say, “My Lord, have mercy upon them as they brought me up [when I was] small.” ( Surah Al Isra :24)

      Do good and be patient and seek the reward from Allah swt. No matter what they say, we shouldn’t answer back. yes it is going to hurt and sting but it better to be patient and continue to do good, seeking Allah’s help to do so and also the reward .

      You never know , the patient and good attitude might encourage them to actually embrace islam.
      And we should never forget, ” at the end of the night, there is a beautiful dawn awaiting us”. in sha Allah.:)

      help can also be sought from therapists. Sis Haleh Banani from Dallas offers consultations .

      i pray that i was helpful.

  3. Alhamdulillah! This is really a wonderful lesson for all parents. All I can say is to pray to Allah to give us the ability and courage to apply the lessons in our life’s, jazakallahu khairan!!!

  4. Salam sister and Jazakullah khair for the article on parents and children. It is very useful and informative especially when references are made to ayahs and the Quran for this is our book of guidance. I will share with others and I pray Allah blesses you in all that you do. Ameen

  5. Masha Allah, a good article.. Lots of reminders on how to instil gratefulness to parents in our children and be grateful ourselves.

  6. Masha Allah, this advise it’s very useful,
    Thank you for the good work, keep it up
    May Allah SWA reward you with aljannah
    Ameen .

  7. Good advice for parents and older children alike.
    Patience is important but sometimes it is easy to lose it when you struggle
    to cope with the tribulations of life.


  8. Salam Jazakillah Keira. Just 3 hours before I typed a reply thanking sincerly the author and Productive muslim for publishing such woderful article. Before I could post it somthing happened. Allah SWT alone knows why. This time with different words I try. I could never thank you all sufficiently. Hope this time Insha Allah it works.

  9. Salam. Alhamdoulillah. Things happen in our life. Our Rabb loves us 70 times more than our mother. Born to a mother who gave birth to 15 children and being the 7th child, I used to ask her to tell me secretly the child she loves the best. She used to say she loves all her chidren. A man could never know, what it is to be a mother. but if Allah give him the oppertunity, to thank HIM, he can just imagine what it is to be grateful. For Allah’s sake I am greatful to the author and Productivemuslim. Please continue only for our Rabb.

  10. Assalaam.. we all benefit in one way or another from someone else’s experiences. I have also learnt a lot from my deceased mother…. may Allah in His Infinite Mercy grant her jannah, In Shaa Allah. I always shukr Allah for granting me and my family so much. I also never neglect to continue to ask Allah for the best for my children and all the other parents’ children. We can only excel in our lives thru asking Allah to grant others that which we wish for ourselves and our families.

    Getting up during the night and asking Allah whatever it is we need for ourselves and our children is the best we can do. For years now it has become a practise with a lot of parents, and Algamdulillaa, we can see that Allah in His infinite Mercy and Wisdom hears, sees and knows everything. Always put your Trust in Allah, for surely He never disappoints anyone. We must just have that Sabr and Perseverence and be Consistent in our prayers and sacrifice, In Shaa Allah

  11. Hmm…salam alai,I really appriaciate ur effort also a brother. frd from facb through which I got the info about the site(productive muslim…)Thanks so much…may almighty alah forgive me

  12. Alhamdulillah, it is very educative. May Almighty Allah grant us more knowledge and wisdom. Thank you very much

  13. JazakAllah khair sister. May Allah accept and reward you in this dunya and akhira. May Allah bless you and your family.

  14. MashaAllah.. well written article by you.. really inspired me.. May Allah give you barakah and bleesing to continue writting good informative article..

  15. Assalaamu’alaykum sister Sana,
    JazakiAllahu khaira. This is very well articulated indeed, masyaAllah. May Allah bless our parents and make us among those who practice Ihsaan in everything that we do :-)

  16. Selam ‘alejkum, I am Imam from Bosnia & Herzegovina. I am preparing Masters tesis: Pedagogical – educational messages and lessons from Surat Luqman. Please send me all that You can to help me in this work. Books in pdf format, links, websites, literature, all the works in the field of tafsir, especially tafsir in English, Arabic or any other language. Thank you for your help. I will mention You as my associates in this paper, when the book was published.